thejabberwocky Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 I know I made the right decision in breaking up with my ex, but we'd been together for 6 years and I am so depressed and lonely. I'm not wavering on my choice, as I cannot trust him at all, but it still hurts. What makes you feel better after a breakup? What can I do to feel like a person again? I broke up with him 11 days ago and haven't spoken to him since. I also blocked his number/social media.
QueenDeath Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 Hello. What you can try doing is try doing is just something that makes you happy. Whether it being going outside for a walk, going shopping, playing video games, reading, do anything that just makes your heart burn with love and passion. However, don't forget to allow yourself to feel sad, if you want to cry, cry, want to listen to sad songs and just sit there on the couch, do it. However, don't unpack your bags and live there. I do find that doing things that I enjoy like talking to good friends, watching my favorite TV show within a week ( no shame 5 seasons of The Walking Dead with not much hours of sleep ) playing my favorite video games, and looking forward to upcoming things help me feel better. In all, do whatever you can that makes you feel better, and always look forward to the future because there are brighter days ahead, this pain is only temporary. Time heals all sorts of wounds.
mightycpa Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 As I recall, you have to re-learn how to do the things you like to do again. Maybe you gave up some activities when you started dating seriously, or maybe you put some distance between you and your best friends. Maybe the things you like to do are tinged with memories of doing it with him. Whatever the case, it's like everything else. You're just going to have to get used to things being different. 2
Peacelooker Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 I know what you mean ! My ex and I broke up a few days a go! Leading up to it for the last few months for sure I felt and was 100 percent sure that IT was for the best and deep down I know it is! But Jesus it hurts somedays even when you just find out it didn't. Take her anytime to get back on pof , but she assures me it's not what I think! I don't know part of me wonders if I made the right choice ! I know I did I have been through this before to know it's going to hurt for a while but in the long run I need to focus on me!
Seth0194 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 As I recall, you have to re-learn how to do the things you like to do again. Maybe you gave up some activities when you started dating seriously, or maybe you put some distance between you and your best friends. Maybe the things you like to do are tinged with memories of doing it with him. Whatever the case, it's like everything else. You're just going to have to get used to things being different. This is so true, its like learningto live again. Seems we start all over, new routine, new places to eat so do not bring back those memories. I have really gotten back into fitness, ive lost 12 pounds in 4 weeks and my arms a tight. I also use to love going for long rides before my ex came into picture, just driving and letting music play. Ive done that a few times and it has helped me really think.
Gus Grimly Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 it didn't. Take her anytime to get back on pof , but she assures me it's not what I think! My Ex said the same thing a week after the BU her Match, OKCupid and Eharmony profiles suddenly got reactivated with updated pics and info. But yeah, it's not what you think, no seriously, it's not.
Liono84 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 (edited) My Ex said the same thing a week after the BU her Match, OKCupid and Eharmony profiles suddenly got reactivated with updated pics and info. But yeah, it's not what you think, no seriously, it's not. And this is why we can NEVER truly trust any dumpers reasoning for a breakup. My ex swore the same thing, but after the breakup she posted a ton of new pictures on FB and Instagram and as much as it killed me to admit it, she looked more amazing than ever. She barely posted any pics when we were going out, yet, all of a sudden, she now became a selfie whore sharing pics on a daily basis. I only found out because my friends told me until I told them to stop updating me on her whereabouts. Another mutual friend of mine also told me that he saw her profile on Tinder, too. The most F'ed part is it took her no less than 2 weeks to post these pics. I've been a dumper before as well, but I've had respect for my ex, and never did such a thing. Edited August 31, 2015 by Liono84
Author thejabberwocky Posted September 10, 2015 Author Posted September 10, 2015 And this is why we can NEVER truly trust any dumpers reasoning for a breakup. Hey, I'm the dumper and my reason for the breakup was 100% clear. Not everyone is out to trick you. I tried really hard in my relationship and he didn't and I was sick of being lied to and disrespected. These were the words I used when I broke it off. It hurts me as much as it hurts him, but I have to be strong and do what's right. However, I'm in still really sad and 3 weeks into NC.
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