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Dating with a Restraining Order


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It's not really love till there is a restraining order.

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Personally, I'd date someone else. Why tempt fate, even if the purported RO is vaporware? Lots of fish in the sea.

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So wait, someone fearing you being close to them to cause them harm is no big deal? Who is no one? Is the person that went to the police station to report you as a potential threat no one? Did the police not care when you violated it? What about the judge?

 

I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS.

 

It is pretty messed up whichever way you slice it

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They are not that big a deal...I've had a few before and no one cares.

 

Almost every company I have ever worked for thinks differently and all the hiring managers I work with, you would get passed over every-time.

 

To many crazies out there who go shoot their spouses / exes at their place of employment and take many of their co-workers with them.

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Honestly would I be better off finding someone else? Even though she said a million times she likes me?

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Actions and words. Are they matching up here?

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Honestly would I be better off finding someone else? Even though she said a million times she likes me?

 

What part of restraining order communicates I like you / I want you / purse me?

 

If you come to that conclusion, seek professional help immediately.

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Actions and words. Are they matching up here?

 

Not at all. That is the problem.

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They are not that big a deal...I've had a few before and no one cares.

 

OK, why have you had a few restraining orders before?

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Hey Guys,

 

So I've been seeing this girl a bit, and out of the blue she puts a restraining order out on me. I know she still likes me, but I think she is just trying to play 'hard to get'. And her friends think im a bit psycho, but I'm obviously not because im dating a really hot girl.

 

Here's the problem, after our first date, I said "oh hey so lets go to the beach next saturday morning" and she said "sounds fun ill check my schedule". Well, its been a week and tomorrow was the "beach day", so...im gonna go into her place and pick her up, but because of the restraining order, how am I supposed to drive her and kiss her and stuff? I mean...you can't do much when you are staying 100ft away!

 

What should I do? Should i just ignore the judge's rules and still go out with her? I mean like, i doubt i would go to jail again or anything...

 

What do you guys think? Thanks!

If you've done nothing to necessitate this RO, you should be strongly offended by it ( regardless of whether or not it actually exists. Any desire to meet up with her should have been automatically extinguished after being informed about the RO. I don't mean to berate you but why would you even contemplate meeting up with her or dating her considering the circumstances at hand? You've either withheld some key aspects of the story or you're simply dealing with a nutcase who maybe fabricated evidence or stories to obtain a RO. In any case, nothing good can come out of this. You should be indignant about the situation.

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...or you're simply dealing with a nutcase who maybe fabricated evidence or stories to obtain a RO.

 

Maybe so, but the OP has had restraining orders placed against him before, according to himself - the details of which are unclear.

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