E-Squared Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Is this a common thing? Or does this show a lack of sex drive or something? Because regarding the second question, I still get horny and get off to the opposite sex. However, I don't want to meet every last woman I meet. Plus, because I am back in school this fall, I see that a lot of women I see are fresh out of high school, and a guy at 29 might seem a little sketchy in pursuing girls who are a decade younger. Hell, I have accounts on POF and OkCupid, and I don't send women messages that much because I don't see too many women who spark my interests. In the past, I have experimented with sending multiple women messages to see if I at least get a reply. Some have responded, but stopped after two or three messages. However, I am not sure if this is a common thing. Sure, I have heard the whole "Be confident" spiel hundreds of times, but I feel that I am confident enough to talk to women. Sure, I may be a bit awkward sometimes, if a little shy, but I sometimes exhibit comfort in talking to women as well. But for the most part, I sometimes feel like I don't have much of a desire or urge to meet women. I am not sure if that has to do with pickiness, because I am not that picky. I also don't like it when people try to urge me on to go walk up to a stranger girl and start talking to her (I have a story to share about this; it happened a month ago). Is this a common thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 I don't know if it's common, but you're doing yourself a favor. The dating game sucks. Most women I see on OKC are less than remarkable (putting it gently). Approaching women in public is nerve-wracking and usually ends in rejection and embarrassment. Enjoy your monkhood and consider yourself blessed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author E-Squared Posted August 29, 2015 Author Share Posted August 29, 2015 I think monkhood is a little far-fetched in this case, but I guess maybe I am lucky that I don't have to deal with baggage much. Being single really is not bad, at least not as bad as the general consensus believes. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted August 29, 2015 Share Posted August 29, 2015 I understand your frustration. I haven't done OLD in over six years. I have been just doing the offline approach, you know, the way it was done before the Internet. For me, it's been very exhausting and disappointing. And I live in a large metropolitan city. Getting to know women face-to-face, seeing their real personalities, has turned me off from pursuing them for the time being. I couldn't even image how they present themselves online, what they fabricate, to cover up their superficiality, and their self-absorbed personalities. Of course not all are like that. There are gems out there, but in short supply. But dating and pursuing a woman is like going through a gauntlet. Link to post Share on other sites
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