Author NoMoreJerks Posted August 30, 2015 Author Posted August 30, 2015 I mean that whatever the reason (which doesn't matter, by the way), if you were to get back together once again, it doesn't seem likely this time would stick. Nothing substantive has changed, has it? Nope, definitely nothing has changed. Even now, despite having dumped me, he is refusing to take ANY responsibility, even for the dumping. He is blaming me for everything, including his choices. He has found a punching bag and keeps punching me over and over again, trying to make me believe I am crazy, a psycho, manipulative, a b*tch, who abused and hurt him and forced him to dump me, and destroyed him.
SoleMate Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 I recommend going NC, including FB, all social media, all portals and modes of whatever sort, including IRL. That will give you some time and space to heal and recover. 1
BC1980 Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 I had a moment of weakness, and had been stewing in the temptation to respond for the past 2 days, and I replied last night. I answered his question, "no, because I love you. <3 " However, I almost instantly regretted writing it. This morning, just a while ago, I sent out another email: "At any rate, I don't know why you are accusing me of having destroyed you. I do not consider myself responsible for the decision that you took, to dump me, to burn the bridges between me and your friends and son, to badmouth me to your friends and son, to consider their demands and criteria more important than our relationship. Despite all this, I wish you happiness in your life. I hope you will find peace with regards to your choice to break up with me. Take care of yourself." I wanted to show him that I don't want him back despite loving him/caring about him. That he has to take responsibility for his actions, rather than blame me for them. I don't want to receive any more emails containing this sort of accusation, because it is bringing me down. I don't think that was the worst thing you could have written. At least, you took the high road when he clearly wanted drama. Because to be honest, that email he sent you was really over the top and dramatic. Seriously? You have the power to destroy his life? I don't think so. But go NC now. He is no longer worth dwelling on. I really think that his email was an attempt to play the victim. He is painting you out to be the villain, so don't stick around for that. If a grown man wants to play these games, let him do it without you. 2
veggirl Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 Every guy you post about sounds like such a huge a-hole. I don't even get why you begged this guy back! I honestly think you need to work on better vetting the guys you date and walking away sooner when they show crappy behavior. 2
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