Altra Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 So, my boyfriend of four years and I broke up in June. He'd been seeing my friend behind my back, and basically within a week of us breaking up, he moved into her house and has been living with her since. At first, I cried and pleaded with him. Then I told myself I wanted to try to be friends. I knew it wasn't a good idea, but I wasn't ready to let go yet. I've been keeping my distance, only texting him a few times a week. We have a dog that we got while we were together. He wanted to take the dog with him when he left, but I've been paying all the vet and food bills and I told him no. I have been letting him come see the dog and take the dog with him occasionally on the weekend. I know he adores the dog, but I'm sick of the emotional roller coaster I go on every time I talk to him/see him. I try to be pleasant, friendly, but he is SUCH a jerk. He's completely negative about everything and just brings me down and makes me feel like a failure and doormat. I know he will be mad when I don't let him see the dog anymore, but I'm done feeling sorry for him. He left me for someone else. He lived off me for three years while he refused to get a job. I paid for his college tuition and provided the gas/car for him to go to class. I paid for his cell phone and groceries. I paid the $200 deactivation fee to take his cellphone off my plan when he refused to pay it. I deserve to keep the dog and he deserves nothing. I'm ready to cut him out of my life completely. Finally. I'm done with the negativity and I'm done caring about his feelings. /end rant He asked to take the dog next weekend. Should I just ignore him or send him a "farewell" text asking him not to contact me again? 2
aloneinaz Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Hun, You should of vanished from his life the minute he was gone. I'm glad you used the word door mat because that's what you've been. Good for you to find your dignity and self respect. You owe this guy NOTHING! As far as the dog goes, tell him next time he contacts you to see him/her, that you're you are cutting all contact. Also, let him know if he goes into doggy withdrawal that there are plenty of dog adoption shelters that he can visit to find a new one. Seriously, I wouldn't waste 5 seconds on this dude. 1
quattrob Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Screw this guy, you owe him nothing. The dog is yours period. You've been way more than nice to him since the break up and he's still being a jerk to you so screw him. You do what you want with YOUR dog and you should never allow him to see or take/visit your dog ever.
Unlucky_I_Guess Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I agree with the general concensus here. This guy doesn't deserve any consideration on your part; he made his choice. My ex - fiancé moved out on me, a dog and 2 cats (one of which was hers) and has never once asked about them. If she had I would have greeted her with a wall of silence. Your ex made the choice to cut you out of his life...that includes all of the extras (such as pets) as well.
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