SASSYPRINCESS Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 [font=arial][/font][color=red][/color]WHAT SHOULD I DO? I have been dating this guy now for 2 months. He has been absolutley wonderful.. Comes and stays with me almost every night, has got to know my daughter, introduced me to his friends, met all my family (several times) , is great in bed, nice to me.. I should have no complaints right.. Well i dont..! i am falling head over heals in love with him and i have been married and separated myself and AM quite scared that i feel so strongly for him already.. The problem is , the other day he told me that he was hurt very badly by his first girlfiend at 16 and since then doesnt know if he can fall in love. He was with his ex for 3 years and didnt love her.. im scared.. What if he doesnt ever love me? Are there signs I can look for? What should i do? He said he feels nothing for me yet like that?
Merin Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 What you should do is slow down, step back and breathe.. You've only been dating this Guy for 2 Months.. While I understand that you're hoping this relationship will progress if you don't give him room and he starts feeling a lot of pressure he's going to bail before the chance of anything more even happens... IMO It's unreasonable to have this high of expectation at 2 months into the relationship.. He's obviously spending a lot of time with you and you're happy with him.. so let things progress in time... Good Luck
Merin Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Originally posted by SASSYPRINCESS WHATS IMO? In My Opinion
Author SASSYPRINCESS Posted May 12, 2005 Author Posted May 12, 2005 i c.. well in reply , i think i have been mis interpreted.. i dont expect him to be in love with me after 2 months, my worry is should i be worried will he ever fall in love with me if he didnt love a girl after 3 years.. to me thats a big risk of me getting hurt and in your opinions am i worrying about nothing
Merin Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Originally posted by SASSYPRINCESS i c.. well in reply , i think i have been mis interpreted.. i dont expect him to be in love with me after 2 months, my worry is should i be worried will he ever fall in love with me if he didnt love a girl after 3 years.. to me thats a big risk of me getting hurt and in your opinions am i worrying about nothing You seem kinda pissed off.. I'm not making light of your situation.. I'm saying it's been 2 months and Yes IMO it is to early to worry if he will ever fall in Love with you.. just because he was in a relationship with someone else for 3 years and wasn't in love with her doesn't mean that will be the case with you.. no more than the fact that it didn't work out between you and your husband means it will not work out with him.. you're trying to compare 2 different people in a different relationship. There is ALWAY a risk in falling in Love. You hope it will work out, you work at the relationship, give it all you've got and sometimes it works out, but sometimes it doesn't.. thats the risk we all take in loving someone else. You can spend so much time worrying about the relationship that you're not actually enjoying being in it.. because a person can get so wrapped up in waiting for the end that they forget to be in the now with the person they care about...
Author SASSYPRINCESS Posted May 12, 2005 Author Posted May 12, 2005 no.. not all pissed off. That was very good advice.. thank you.. and your right.. I should enjoy now and not worry about it.. your so right... I dont know why i get like that .. i never used to.. Thanks... very helpful
sweetpea01 Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 If he didn't fall in love with his ex in 3 years, it was because of the dynamic between them. That doesn't mean that he will not fall in love with you. Maybe he is trying to be more cautious this time, instead of declaring his love for you right away. 2 months is early - too early to expect too much from him yet. If things are working, just let them be. SP
RecordProducer Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Your relationship is developing very well and you shouldn't think about his ex-GFs. Enjoy your love! You will know soon enough whether he is in love or not. It takes time for some guys to realize it or admit it out loud. But, of course, you never know. After a couple of months of being so close, he should already be in love with you, if you ask me. You might give him a couple more months but then things should get to "I love you." Be positive!
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