deanomac88 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Hi everyone I've been dating a girl now for the last 3 months, we have been exclusive not seeing anyone else, met each others families and even gone to a wedding together, which she invited me to. We've been getting along really well and always had a great time together. All of a sudden her ex text her saying could he meet up with her as he was back in town for a weeks holiday (they broke up due to him leaving to work in another part of the country) this is also the first time he has contacted her in the 3 months and she told me her head was all over the place. She then tells me she doesn't think she can see me anymore as she still has feelings for him but that she really likes me. I fully respected that she still may have feelings for him and have no ill feeling at all towards her but I don't want to give up on her as we have sooo much in common and get one so well. She has still been tagging me on Facebook and snap chatting me which I find really confusing. Any advice would be great on this thanks
giblesp Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Why the hell would you not want to give up on someone who tells you that she has feelings for her ex? Do you also bash your head against a wall in your spare time? How are you going to meet someone compatible, if you waste your time with a woman who gets intimate, meets your family and then has the nerve to tell you that she has feelings for her ex? Horrible. Get out of there now. 1
PegNosePete Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I don't want to give up on her as we have sooo much in common and get one so well. She has still been tagging me on Facebook and snap chatting me which I find really confusing. You might not want to "give up" on her, but she has clearly given up on you. She has dumped you to go back to her ex. If someone did that to me I certainly wouldn't remain friends on facebook, snapchat or any other social media network. Where is your self respect man? Woman ditches you for her ex and you're begging for her back like a puppy dog?? 3
Diezel Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Dump her, TODAY. Better yet, YESTERDAY. Your Plan B, not her Plan A. Do you like coming in second? 1
aloneinaz Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 You don't have a choice my man in giving up on her. If you chase her, you'll look clingy, desperate and appear to have no pride. While she probably liked you, at 3 months, you two hadn't developed enough connection for her to stay when her ex came a calling. Cut your loses. Accept her decision and vanish from her life. You NEED TO delete and block her on all social media. What you two are doing in your lives post break up is neither of your business. You met her and you'll met someone else. Keep your dignity and move on. 1
Author deanomac88 Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 The thing is I don't know if the ex has any interest in being with her, they were only going out for 6 months too and he's leaving again in a few days......forgot to add she said she needs to take a break to be by herself for now.....I don't want to chase her but just basically say does she see any future and if not just walk away
Diezel Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 The point isn't whether or not he's interested... the point is that SHE IS INTERESTED. Again, you're #2 in this scenario whether he wants to be with her or not. 1
PegNosePete Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 If you had been the one to dump her for your ex, do you think she'd be making forum posts about how to win you back? Even if it didn't work out do you think she'd like being dumped for another woman? Do you think she'd take you back after doing that to her? Hell NO! You would be so deleted from her life that she'd need hypnotherapy to even remember your name. So why are you even considering taking her back??
bubbaganoosh Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 She told you she still has feelings for him. That should be enough to tell you to move on. There's nothing there except your false hope. Move on and find someone else.
giblesp Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 The thing is I don't know if the ex has any interest in being with her, they were only going out for 6 months too and he's leaving again in a few days......forgot to add she said she needs to take a break to be by herself for now.....I don't want to chase her but just basically say does she see any future and if not just walk away She's already told you she's not interested! Why does she have to tell you a second time? Look at what everyone is telling you here, some if not all of us have been in your position. You must have some self respect. She told you she prefers her ex. Its up to her to come to YOU to see if there's a second chance. If not, goodbye.
Satu Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 This will never go away You are 2nd best and always will be. Don't accept that position.
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