dragonwalker Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) For those who have read my other posts and following or answering questions about this girl I had been going on dates with, thanks. Basically, I went out on 7-8 dates with this girl which I really liked. Over the past weekend we really got intimate. Things are going well right? Nope, she agrees to have dinner with me tonight and then she tells me that so sees me as a friend. To clarify I asked that this would be the end of our dating. She silently acknowledged this. I already decided as a policy that I am not going to continue to be "friends" with anyone that I pursue romantically but that doesn't work out. I confirmed this with her as well. When I left I deleted her contact and plan to put these past few months away. This has all been a little surprising considering what had just happened a few days ago. I think I did good by taking it the right way. I didn't ask for explanations, I didn't complain or wine. I thanked her for her honesty, we talked for a bit after that and we walked back to her car, we hugged and I wished her the best of luck. I'm still bummed out about it because it was at the height of what I thought of when things were going well. She told me that when we were together she tried to make it work. Which sucks because that suggests she didn't really want to be intimate but forced herself to. Sucks for the ego, but that's life. I'm just trying to ask myself how I could have seen this coming after something like that? I guess it has a lot to do with my inexperience even at 27. I guess my intuition was right that I felt there was something holding her back in the intimacy department beyond just cultural issues. I'm going to learn from this and carry on. Also, if I needed help making a dating profile or improving the one I have, which section should I post it in? Thanks, just needed to let go a little. Edited August 28, 2015 by dragonwalker
mystikmind2005 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) Ding ding ding.... And here we have yet another perfectly standard rip your heart out for no discernible reason crap. Sometimes i wonder if women are like water diviners searching high and low for mystical whispers on the wind, finding reasons out of nothing to end the relationship. The only thing missing is she is not holding a dowsing rod over your head! Link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dowsing Edited August 28, 2015 by mystikmind2005
lavenderlove Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I am female and I have a dowsing rod. It's right above my bed. When I sleep with someone I ask the rod next morning: Hey Rod is this dude "off centre"? I can then see the rod ever so slightly move to the left or the right. Left means he is out right means he is in. Over a 6 month period there had to be 70% right nods by Rod. I hope this helps :-)
Rko28 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 urgh that mustve been horrible. Nothing worse than something blind siding you like that. Take care of yourself.
Satu Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 You handled that very well. Onward now to something new.
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