DatingDirection Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I'm 31 years old. I have only really deeply loved 1 person. I'm afraid that I will never love another that deeply again, and therefor be alone the rest of my life. Any thoughts on this? Does anyone out there ever feel this way, or have felt this way, but then met someone that changed all that fear in them?
Mrin Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Absolutely! I've dated several women that for me, at the time, were Apex women. That it just couldn't get any better. Or that there was something so unique about them on a particular scale that I _knew_ I would never find their equal. In fact, I'll give you an example. About two years ago I met a woman with whom I shared a chemistry I've never known before. Seriously, lights would dim when get got around each other. The gravitation field of the earth shifted. It was magnetic. Organic. Crazy. We dated for about six months and then I broke it off with her because other things between us weren't compatible. But still I was chemistry sick for her. I KNEW I would never find another woman like that. Then four months later I met my soulmate. The chemistry we share is so far beyond what I had experienced with the other lady that it is comical to even compare. Like it isn't even measured with the same units. And we celebrated our 13 month anniversary a couple of days ago. I've never been this blissfully in love in my 44 years on this rock. So yes - just open yourself to the possiblity of what's out there and you just might find it. 2
mystikmind2005 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Strictly in a non negative way, i am starting to question relationship love, it is allot like fools gold i think, but with a chance of turning into real gold later on. As a father of a 3 year old daughter, that kind of love really puts it in perspective and i can see how cheap and toxic is the drug abusing high that relationship love is - basically its fake, a trick of mother nature for the purpose of reproduction. So my point is that if you find it, that's great, but if not, that's really no great loss, at best it is nothing more than a starting point to which you have to build the real loving relationship. Most importantly, i do believe you can build a real loving relationship entirely without the early drug high from that kind of fast relationship love.
elaine567 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I'm 31 years old. I have only really deeply loved 1 person. I'm afraid that I will never love another that deeply again, and therefor be alone the rest of my life. It is all on you. IF you want to go about thinking he was your only true love and you will NEVER love that deeply again, then it will be a self fulfilling prophesy. 1
Gaeta Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I have loved deeply more than once. As I grow older I love stronger, deeper and better. There are all kinds of love too. Sometimes love you have for someone can be possessive, sometimes it's giving, sometimes it's a love that elevates you sometimes it consumes you. Each way you love feels different, each person you will love the love will feel different so don't expect next time you fall in love it will feel like it felt with your ex. It may feel different but 100 times better. 1
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