Marvelgirl Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I met this guy at my gym in March.(5 months ago)... He noticed everything about me and paid attention to me like I never experienced before. He really pursued me... We started to date.. I moved into a new place in June and he helped me pick it out and at that time we talked about how I can see him moving in with me... He said he was thinking the same how good it would be for us to be living together.... He doesn't stay at my place that often, but I want him to every weekend.. I feel like I am the one pushing this relationship into a more serious one... He has not told anyone that he is seeing me... I have told my closest friends.... I recently asked him why he was a little distant to me and he said he was just taking his time... He always calls me every evening before going to bed... I call him every morning to wake him up for work.... I see him everyday at the gym and 3-4 days a week we usually do something together, like go to my place and eat and watch tv, then he goes home.... We don't sleep together as much anymore... We will have sex 1-2 per month in the last 2 months.... It used to be 4 times a day at the beginning.... He has a huge family and they take a lot of his time and it leaves me feeling left out now...i don't want him to choose between his family or me..... But I want to be introduced finally.... He's not a lovey dovey guy... If I say lovey stuff he says its cheesy.... Am I wasting my time on him? I know he's had terrible relationships in his past, but I am nothing like those women. i think part of it is he hasn't has a real serious relationship before.... What do you think??
Qboro90 Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Are you guys officially dating and a couple? Have you discussed with him where you stand or if your exclusively seeing each other? If not you should. Do you have family that lives in the area? I think you should start bringing him out with your friends and family. That will progress things. You haven't been together long enough to where I think you should bring up moving in together. That would seem a bit fast if I were him. If you've never met his friends or family then that's a bit concerning.
todreaminblue Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 some guys aren't comfortable with lovey dovey ......maybe it's the way they were brought up or simply how they feel comfortable expressing themselves,and words anyway are not as often as telling as actions and or body language when you are around each other....some men cant express themselves well in words...but in action they excel............i think you should talk to him about what he sees in the future for you two.....and then talk about what you see....fi there are problems in communicating with each other....you have to find someway to communicate effectively ...things like...what you need, what would make you happy...what makes you sad what you cant handle....what you can........and vice versa.....i certainly dont think you should move in together if you feel insecure about him...its the last thing you should do....good luck...deb
Ami1uwant Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Have you asked him what you guys are? Have you asked him why he doesn't stay overnight? Have you told him you want him to stsy over? Why has the sex dropped off so much?
aloneinaz Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I met this guy at my gym in March.(5 months ago)... He noticed everything about me and paid attention to me like I never experienced before. He really pursued me... We started to date.. I moved into a new place in June and he helped me pick it out and at that time we talked about how I can see him moving in with me... He said he was thinking the same how good it would be for us to be living together.... He doesn't stay at my place that often, but I want him to every weekend.. I feel like I am the one pushing this relationship into a more serious one... He has not told anyone that he is seeing me... I have told my closest friends.... I recently asked him why he was a little distant to me and he said he was just taking his time... He always calls me every evening before going to bed... I call him every morning to wake him up for work.... I see him everyday at the gym and 3-4 days a week we usually do something together, like go to my place and eat and watch tv, then he goes home.... We don't sleep together as much anymore... We will have sex 1-2 per month in the last 2 months.... It used to be 4 times a day at the beginning.... He has a huge family and they take a lot of his time and it leaves me feeling left out now...i don't want him to choose between his family or me..... But I want to be introduced finally.... He's not a lovey dovey guy... If I say lovey stuff he says its cheesy.... Am I wasting my time on him? I know he's had terrible relationships in his past, but I am nothing like those women. i think part of it is he hasn't has a real serious relationship before.... What do you think?? Honestly, to use the cliché "he's just NOT that into you". There are major red flags all over what you wrote here. You've dated 5 months and he has NOT told his friends or family that he's dating you? Have you met any of is family after 5 months? Sex is now down to twice a month after only 5 months? Hun, as a guy, when I'm into the girl I'm dating, I want to spend time with her. I want to spend the night w/her and wake up in the morning with her next to me. My GF and I have been dating for 2 years plus. She lives w/me. We have sex 2-3 times a week and we're in our 40's. I've always introduced my new GF's to friends and family after a month. It almost sounds like he's dating other gals along with you. It doesn't appear you're an official "couple" and his actions are demonstrating he doesn't want to either. I think you need to eject out of this R/S. Clearly you've given him all kinds of hints and discussed some of this with no results.
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