loneyBird Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Ok so last saterday he called me drunk at 2:30 in the morning ...this was the last time I spoke to him in any way..shape..or form. I started working out, talking to friends and taking 5htp to keep my mood up... but i saw him online today after four days of no contact...ignored him, he ignored me and I signed off before he did. I feel sort of bad ...and i am wondering why he didn't try and contact me. I guess i just need a little support here..so i can keep doing what im doing...because my friends or mother wont give me any positive feedback..because they are sick of me talking about this. uggg must stay strong....
ErinErinErin Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Okay- I have gotten some excellent advice from the others here: Do not contact him- it will leave him wondering what to do- he is probably waiting and wanting you to contact him but don't...then he will think that he still has you by the heart...etc...so just leave things for a few days... I know it is hard...I started NC with my ex and then a week later he was calling about the stupidest things...not being totally nice, but still calling- testing the waters so to speak- just be aloof for now...see how that goes...
Author loneyBird Posted May 13, 2005 Author Posted May 13, 2005 BAHHH im trying so hard....you have no idea...its day 5.....kind of sucks but at least i feel more in control
Jadey Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 LoneyBird, Congratulate yourself! 5 days may not sound like much but it is. It is a step forward. People may say "5 days aint ****" Dont listhen to them (been there you see) You are doing the right thing by not contacting him. At the best hes confused, lost, wondering why you havent botherd with him, has a deflated ego, and youre in control. At the worst he doesnt care, i know that sounds harsh and will hurt you but look at it this way, if he doesnt care he wont contact you and you can go about your life recovering and you WILL eventually get over it. Or if he does want you back he will have to contact you and itll be up to you to decide, the balls in your court! So enjoy it, stay strong and happy Good Luck!
Author loneyBird Posted May 13, 2005 Author Posted May 13, 2005 I hid on a screen name he didn't know...and I saw that he was sitting there for three hours... I went on the screen name he did know and he immediatly said hello to me.,...I bet he was waiting for me the whole time....But I ignored him. signed off on a different name...and he signed off right after that. I think he may be wondering why I am not giving him all the attention I used to give him..and he is freaking out. The problem is... i am too afraid to give into talking to him at this point.. that i might miss him wanting to get back with me.... but that chances of that happening are slim ...since he has a new girlfriend now. He can always e-mail me..if he really really wants to get back together if thats the case..... Thanks Jadey! Its now day 6!.... I don't remember a single time in two years when i have had the guts to not talk to him for a week....
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