Isabelle.0 Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 This is going to be pretty long so please bear with me. I have known this guy for three years now. We met through a mutual friend. For two years we would always constantly talk through texting and he was always the one who showed interest but I still believe we were really good friends up until a year ago when I decided to transfer to his university. After he came to know about this he would seem pretty eager to meet me. He would text me all the time to say that he's at this spot and I should drop by to say hi. This continued for few months. He would buy me my favorite cupcakes, convince me to hangout at a cafe with me, playfully tease me which lead me to believe that he might have feelings for me. One day he came to see me after class without informing me. I could sense that he was in a bad mood but I didn't comment on it. Out of no where he started to throw insults at me. Called me names, and what not. I was truly hurt with his behavior because it's not like I ever initiated to be friends with him in the first place. I stopped talking to him. And he came to apologize to me after two months. I forgave him. Fast forward to the most recent event...he said he's "moving" out of town. I freaked out. And I thought maybe I should confess my feelings before he leaves. However my friend said he's manupiliating me emotionally. He's lying you. I asked him why is he lying and he never reported until after a very long chat he asked me if I will miss him. Instead of answering I said is this how he respond or talks to his other friends? What is he trying to achieve? He never responded until layer that he's just going with friends for a week. This was 4 months ago. I don't know what changed in him but he would constantly text me talk about everything and then stop for the next three weeks. His behavior starred to annoy me. During his birthday I texted him to tell him I have a birthday gift for him. He didn't seem eager about it. When he threw a birthday bast he just texted to tell me he's throwing a birthday party. Period. Nothing after that for two weeks. I was so hurt by his behavior. After two weeks, I return his gift back at the mall and that's when I get a text "hello" I didn't respond. On my birthday he wishes me and then says I've disappered. And then few weeks later he text me to know if I'm giving him a silent treatment. And that he doesn't appreciate my lack of response to his messages. That's it. It's been two months now and I miss him so much. Two months of NC and yet he's always on my mind. Was I wrong? Did I misread his signals?
Jacob_Duluoz Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I buy people's favorite cupcakes all the time for people I'm not interested in and then when they don't reciprocate by bringing me my favorite cupcake I get mad. If you want anything to do with this person still, you'll ask them, pick up the tab and return the affection. He may have lost interest completely by no so don't be surprised if you're rejected.
kendahke Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I'd stay no contact and keep it moving. Really, there wasn't much here to build on. He seems flaky and silly and you seem as if you fell for him--but neither of you have good communication skills. A lot of what you write about should have been cleared up in a 10 minute conversation a long time ago.
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