Gloria25 Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Just wondering, Have you ever messaged someone who Facebook sorta "referred" to you? What I mean is, Facebook and Google and the Internet Gremlins - who data mine your info by sneaking into your PC when you go online, seem to be tapping into my e-mail contacts and referring people I had e-mailed at some point like via OLD and you know, is asking me 'Do you know so-and-so, and do you wanna add them as a friend on Facebook?' Or, I'm not sure if the person clicked on my FB page and that's why FB is asking me if I know them... Anywho, FB referred me to someone I did a fade on - whom I really liked - but faded on him when I started talking to dude a while back. So, I was thinking to send him a message on FB letting him know FB referred his page to me, that I'm sorry for the fade, but had some stuff going on and see if he'll bite? What do you think? Have you ever reached out to someone that FB referred you to?
katiegrl Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Same thing happens to me. How about instead of responding, just friending them? Perhaps the person will message you...
MidwestUSA Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Same thing happens to me. How about instead of responding, just friending them? Perhaps the person will message you... Exactly this. My situation wasn't quite the same, just an observation that a guy and me with a lot of mutual friends kept commenting on the same posts. I friended him over three years ago, we've been married for just over two. Came straight out of left field, so, you just never know! Skip the apology. You'll look like you're groveling. Friend him and see what happens. 1
loveflower Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 SAME SAME here... I glimpsed a guy I really like in a gym, and he appeared on my 'people you may know' list right after, I thought maybe facebook is psychic? then 2 ex non communicative co-workers showed up on the list after I talked to them or run into this person on walmart... so now I think they must checked out my facebook
loveflower Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Skip the apology. You'll look like you're groveling. Friend him and see what happens. it's a frightening thing to do though....I dare not to try to friend this guy...just afraid what he might think of me.
MidwestUSA Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 it's a frightening thing to do though....I dare not to try to friend this guy...just afraid what he might think of me. Well, that was my recommendation to OP. Your situation is different. It also depends on where you are in life, and how comfortable you are in your own skin. Good luck!
MrBojangles Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 This too has happened with me, and I am seriously considering sh&* canning FB because of this happening repeatedly. Just last week, a former colleague that was fired 5 years ago popped up as a suggested friend! I was never close to the guy, and have NEVER friended ANY of my colleagues on my social media accounts. I have no idea how FB does this, but even neighbors that I've never socialized with pop up sometimes. The big problem I have is, that I do not want to be found by certain people, like my exs' or by certain relatives even. If FB is suggesting them to me, then I can only assume they must have me popping up on their FB pages also. I have my profile's security settings locked down to the max, yet still get friend suggestions that are creepy. Let's not even get into being tagged in some sh*t a friend or relative posts, and then being bombarded with friend requests and notifications from people that I don't even know!! 1
Author Gloria25 Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 This too has happened with me, and I am seriously considering sh&* canning FB because of this happening repeatedly. Just last week, a former colleague that was fired 5 years ago popped up as a suggested friend! I was never close to the guy, and have NEVER friended ANY of my colleagues on my social media accounts. I have no idea how FB does this, but even neighbors that I've never socialized with pop up sometimes. The big problem I have is, that I do not want to be found by certain people, like my exs' or by certain relatives even. If FB is suggesting them to me, then I can only assume they must have me popping up on their FB pages also. I have my profile's security settings locked down to the max, yet still get friend suggestions that are creepy. Let's not even get into being tagged in some sh*t a friend or relative posts, and then being bombarded with friend requests and notifications from people that I don't even know!! I seriously think FB and Google got some secret government contract with the NSA, cuz yea, I just find it odd how they just dredge up all this info on you. Have you heard of them going to Panama to set up "free internet" for the people? Sounds fishy if you ask me.... Internet.org App Debuts in Panama | SocialTimes 1
MrBojangles Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I seriously think FB and Google got some secret government contract with the NSA, cuz yea, I just find it odd how they just dredge up all this info on you. Have you heard of them going to Panama to set up "free internet" for the people? Sounds fishy if you ask me.... Internet.org App Debuts in Panama | SocialTimes Wow... now this is just scary when you ponder the implications! Could it have anything to do with China's growing influence in Central America, and the Panama Cana or even the proposed Nicaragua Canal? Perhaps the real purpose is to be a data clearinghouse for the NSA, CIA and DEA? Sadly, these agencies already have a front row seat here in the U.S. to our supposedly "private" internet activities. But what a great way to move the same capability onto foreign soil, under the disguise of "free" internet. I'm NOT a conspiracy theorist or big brother is watching me freak, but something smell funny about this deal. 1
Methodical Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I was wondering about this too. Just this week, a girl I'm friends with popped up in my suggestion list. Recently I helped get her business off the ground so she is someone I trust. However, she doesn't have my email address or anything else internet related, so I was wondering how/why she popped up as a "suggested friend or someone I might know." The only thing I can think of is that she searched for me via FB, not that I mind. She didn't send a friend request. To be honest, I do very little on FB. I may post something once every three or four months, lol. Most of my interaction is scanning through to see what friends and family are up to, and occasionally I'll volley private messages back and forth with some of my peeps. I'm not one to display everything going on in my life on FB so it's not a big deal. Just curious as to how she popped up as a "suggested friend?"
Harradin Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I know for a fact that if you look at somebody's FB profile, you come up on their 'you may know' list. FB has a lot of algorithms and collects a lot of information, so I'm not surprised that it finds a match with neighbors/people you've met today etc.
Author Gloria25 Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 I don't know about adding the guy as a friend, cuz I am not adding someone I'm interested in romantically as a friend unless we are like dating and "official"... I would feel more comfy in shooting him a message, but keep it casual and be like "hey, FB asked me if I know you...how are you doing? ... not sure if you remember me..." Boy, I hate dating.... 1
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