tangotango Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Hi All, I have been checking in now and then - reading a few posts. I thought seeing as I am coming to 5 months separation now I would update you guys as to what happened, my feelings etc. As per my last post we met for a coffee. It went well Upton 30 minutes in when she delivered the killer blow. Her feelings had not changed and that she didn't see me as her man anymore. Wanted to be friends blah blah After a week of getting over it - another week of feeling back at the start of the break up again... You do just that - you get over it! I have done all the grieving I can do and there comes a natural point where you stop crying, you focus on others around you and other things... It's a weird sensation I have become a much better person... Yes we have a house and it's full of our stuff that needs sorting out. We do talk by text although brief - we are both friendly and sometimes have a laugh but it is important to not read into this as thinking she is coming round and might be back... She misread into one of my texts the other morning and thought I was asking her back again haha... That didn't go well. I wasn't btw! All the new posters on here who say that they will never love someone else - all I can say is this feeling WILL pass... I didn't believe what the guys on here were saying - you chose not to because you think you have that special bond that's different and things work out different. They don't... Your relationship is the same as the next one and the next. The feelings are the same, the endings are as hurtful... I was out with friends - and was goaded into starting a Plenty Of Fish account... Not to just go out and find sex... I have never been like that (as you can tell from my first post haha).. I have been chatting to a couple of girls via the app who contacted me. My point being - we have not met, and have been chatting for a while now and they seem like lovely down to earth people... People I could get on with and there could possibly be something there... Point: there is always someone else who can make you happier!! I considered suicide... I considered moving away... Being dumped - in my case unexpectedly can be one of the worst feelings ever. You have to be strong and fight. I look back at how I was when she left... And laugh. Suicide?? Whatever... I chat with her and have thanked her - as I have changed and got better... And she has noticed the change- in only one meet up for 40 minutes. I cannot wait for my next 'the one' thinks will be soooo different I swear. Think of your time together as a learning curve - you realise where you went wrong and correct it. Your ex will do the same and you will ultimately both be ok. I guess in some cases - if your ex came back and you both learned from your mistakes you could be in the perfect relationship but that won't happen with me... She is happy alone for now and I respect that. Be strong guys... You will feel better I promise!! 1
Seth0194 Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Hi All, I have been checking in now and then - reading a few posts. I thought seeing as I am coming to 5 months separation now I would update you guys as to what happened, my feelings etc. As per my last post we met for a coffee. It went well Upton 30 minutes in when she delivered the killer blow. Her feelings had not changed and that she didn't see me as her man anymore. Wanted to be friends blah blah After a week of getting over it - another week of feeling back at the start of the break up again... You do just that - you get over it! I have done all the grieving I can do and there comes a natural point where you stop crying, you focus on others around you and other things... It's a weird sensation I have become a much better person... Yes we have a house and it's full of our stuff that needs sorting out. We do talk by text although brief - we are both friendly and sometimes have a laugh but it is important to not read into this as thinking she is coming round and might be back... She misread into one of my texts the other morning and thought I was asking her back again haha... That didn't go well. I wasn't btw! All the new posters on here who say that they will never love someone else - all I can say is this feeling WILL pass... I didn't believe what the guys on here were saying - you chose not to because you think you have that special bond that's different and things work out different. They don't... Your relationship is the same as the next one and the next. The feelings are the same, the endings are as hurtful... I was out with friends - and was goaded into starting a Plenty Of Fish account... Not to just go out and find sex... I have never been like that (as you can tell from my first post haha).. I have been chatting to a couple of girls via the app who contacted me. My point being - we have not met, and have been chatting for a while now and they seem like lovely down to earth people... People I could get on with and there could possibly be something there... Point: there is always someone else who can make you happier!! I considered suicide... I considered moving away... Being dumped - in my case unexpectedly can be one of the worst feelings ever. You have to be strong and fight. I look back at how I was when she left... And laugh. Suicide?? Whatever... I chat with her and have thanked her - as I have changed and got better... And she has noticed the change- in only one meet up for 40 minutes. I cannot wait for my next 'the one' thinks will be soooo different I swear. Think of your time together as a learning curve - you realise where you went wrong and correct it. Your ex will do the same and you will ultimately both be ok. I guess in some cases - if your ex came back and you both learned from your mistakes you could be in the perfect relationship but that won't happen with me... She is happy alone for now and I respect that. Be strong guys... You will feel better I promise!! Very well spoken. You are right it does get easier with each passing day and never give up, you/we owe to ourselves to be happy, we only have one life to live but if we do the best we can with the time we have, it just might be enough.
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