dragonwalker Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 ...I want to sleep with the girl that I've been dating. Here is the thing, we've been out on 7-8 dates and it was just the last date this past Sunday when we went from peck on the cheek and hand holding to kissing on the lips, fingering, cuddling naked, and short of sex because neither of us had condoms. I'm meeting her tomorrow for dinner near her place. Obviously I don't want to seem like that is all I'm after or anything but yes I want it. If anything it's been 7-8 dates and I'm sure most of you would have suggested that I bail long ago but I stuck it out and I think the last date was significant progress. Question is since it was soon after our first real sexual encounter, would it be to much to ask to go all the way this time. She first suggested a place near me but I asked about near her due to a meeting and she had no problem with that. I'm planning on hinting at dinner that we should complete our unfinished business but mentioning it at the right time and in a smoother way ofcourse. Yes I am interested in her in a long term relationship so I don't want to jeopardize that. One thing I did notice was even when we were intimate, she's not the most affectionate person. Like even when we were together she really wouldn't initiate the caressing or the kissing and she had this thing about taking off her bra but she was ok taking off her panties. Not trying to be graphic but I'm thinking this might be just a self-conscious thing on her part or a shyness thing? How might I be able to make her feel more comfortable physically or when we are intimate? Could this have been an indication I rushed it the first time? We did share a bottle of wine together but I drank most of it but both of us were in full control. However before we really got intimate we were eating dinner, talking , and watching a movie all the while she had her legs on top of mine and I was caressing her leg. I'd rather not drink at all this time just to give a test run to how both of us are fully sober.
fitnessfan365 Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Are there any other movies you two have talked about watching together? If so, send this text w-full confidence "'We both want to see..So I picked it up @ Redbox. We'll watch it at your place after dinner". She'll probably respond with how perfect that sounds, etc.. Then the rest of the night should take care of itself after that.
Author dragonwalker Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 Are there any other movies you two have talked about watching together? If so, send this text w-full confidence "'We both want to see..So I picked it up @ Redbox. We'll watch it at your place after dinner". She'll probably respond with how perfect that sounds, etc.. Then the rest of the night should take care of itself after that. That's not a bad idea. We didn't really discuss movies she wants to watch. She did mention she likes several hard core chick flicks which I really don't want to watch. What's a good movie to watch that's not overly gushy but good to watch in a situation like this that I can pick up from Redbox and isn't to hard to understand because English is her second language so something that isn't to difficult for her to understand.
Arieswoman Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 dragonwalker, She did mention she likes several hard core chick flicks which I really don't want to watch. I don't like the sound of that ^^^. I think you need to find out a bit more about her tastes before you go any further.....
Qboro90 Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Might not be the best idea to hint or bring up sex or having sex later while you're at dinner. It's not supposed to be planned in advance. Especially in the early stages like this. Just enjoy the date and see how things progress throughout and after dinner. What if her place has roommates there or family that's awake? Then you've been thinking about it an building it up all night when really the possibility wasn't going to be there because of those road blocks. If you get someplace private eventually just take the lead until she stops you or you feel she's not comfortable. If you're making out and start undressing or if she doesn't make the move to take off her pants then ask her " you think you wanna take those off so I can play? " (as in going down on her, not just for sex to get yourself off). If she playfully agrees then you're golden, if she seems hesitant then be a good guy and tell her it's no big deal if she wants to wait... You just can't help but be so attracted to such a gorgeous girl". Then you're actually a good dude. But don't be pushy and expect it from her j use by the first date went how it did. She doesn't owe you anything and that might've been out of character for her. Worst case scenario is you just hold off and wait till next time.
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