Newguy1982 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So I spoke to my ex gf on the phone the other night for the first time since we broke up (6 or 7 months). I called her after we had a brief but positive email exchange. In fact she was happy to hear from me. Our phone convo went well also. It was light and fun, we just filled each other in on what has been happening in our lives the last 6 months. We didn't get into the past or anything. I'm thinking about asking her if she wants to hangout this weekend. I'm still not clear about what my intentions are other than I miss her and would like to spend time with her. It's too early to say that I want to get back together. I'm sure we both have changed. A lot of positive things have happened in my life, and I've done some work on myself. I just feel like if things were to happen again, things would be different. I originally broke up with her. Do you think she would even be engaging me if she at least wasn't still a little interested?
d0nnivain Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Do you understand why you broke up with her? Have all of those reasons been addressed & corrected? If not there is no sense in even trying to get back together because it will be the same old mess. I suppose if she never wanted to hear from you again she would not have responded. Since you dumped her, don't give her false hope. If you aren't committed to reconciliation, leave the poor woman alone. Otherwise you are simply rubbing salt in a wound & that's cruel.
Vintage79 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So I spoke to my ex gf on the phone the other night for the first time since we broke up (6 or 7 months). I called her after we had a brief but positive email exchange. In fact she was happy to hear from me. Our phone convo went well also. It was light and fun, we just filled each other in on what has been happening in our lives the last 6 months. We didn't get into the past or anything. I'm thinking about asking her if she wants to hangout this weekend. I'm still not clear about what my intentions are other than I miss her and would like to spend time with her. It's too early to say that I want to get back together. I'm sure we both have changed. A lot of positive things have happened in my life, and I've done some work on myself. I just feel like if things were to happen again, things would be different. I originally broke up with her. Do you think she would even be engaging me if she at least wasn't still a little interested? Learn to think things through - it's not cool to break up with someone and then try to get back together with them. Sure, there may be a chance of getting back together - but do you really want to date someone who you thought wasn't dating material? - I doubt a whole lot has changed.
Redhead14 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So I spoke to my ex gf on the phone the other night for the first time since we broke up (6 or 7 months). I called her after we had a brief but positive email exchange. In fact she was happy to hear from me. Our phone convo went well also. It was light and fun, we just filled each other in on what has been happening in our lives the last 6 months. We didn't get into the past or anything. I'm thinking about asking her if she wants to hangout this weekend. I'm still not clear about what my intentions are other than I miss her and would like to spend time with her. It's too early to say that I want to get back together. I'm sure we both have changed. A lot of positive things have happened in my life, and I've done some work on myself. I just feel like if things were to happen again, things would be different. I originally broke up with her. Do you think she would even be engaging me if she at least wasn't still a little interested? I'm still not clear about what my intentions are -- Until you do get clear about it in your head, I would not ask her to hangout yet. I'd spend more time talking on the phone and/or emailing. I'm sure we both have changed -- You don't know if she has by one email/phone call. We have no idea whether she is interested at all. Talk to her a little more and get some clarity for yourself. Seeing her now in person will put pressure on you. You were still missing her after 7 months . . . in order to rekindle, ideally, you should be almost completely over her. If you are going to start dating her again, you are dating whoever she is now and need to be clear headed and not projecting past feelings for her. Clean slate until you know if she's still the same person or not. And, if she's changed, do you like the new her? And, if she hasn't changed, you weren't happy with the old her, it's not going to be any different.
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