drseuss Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) so a month since my break up i feel great , the day we broke up i deleted everything and havnt spoke to her for 1 month , i still miss her and know its for the best and all that but i hold a little hope ...., i was kind of a rebound i guess but whatever what ive been thinking tho is we were together 10 months and had such an amazing time , has anyone ever had a fairly short r/s that has ended because of an ex not being over there previous r/s , she really wanted to move on and always maintaned she didnt want him back after there long term on off r/s ( 12 years) and/or been a bit of a rebound, to then have had the dumper come back weeks, months or years later ? when/if they get over there previous r/s or sort out there heads ? i know this looks like a false hope thread but i haven't read anything anywhere about people being rebounds , then a period of time later the dumper comes back and realises that they are better than there old ex ? any insight would be interesting Edited August 26, 2015 by drseuss
LoveIsMyReligion Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Looks like one because it is. So many fish out there, you need to accept that this one got away; might not even be anything you did could simply be the other persons state of mind just changed.
aloneinaz Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 so a month since my break up i feel great , the day we broke up i deleted everything and havnt spoke to her for 1 month , i still miss her and know its for the best and all that but i hold a little hope ...., i was kind of a rebound i guess but whatever what ive been thinking tho is we were together 10 months and had such an amazing time , has anyone ever had a fairly short r/s that has ended because of an ex not being over there previous r/s , she really wanted to move on and always maintaned she didnt want him back after there long term on off r/s ( 12 years) and/or been a bit of a rebound, to then have had the dumper come back weeks, months or years later ? when/if they get over there previous r/s or sort out there heads ? i know this looks like a false hope thread but i haven't read anything anywhere about people being rebounds , then a period of time later the dumper comes back and realises that they are better than there old ex ? any insight would be interesting You're grasping at straws here. This site has been littered with posts from people that got dumped and the dumper went back to their ex. It happens all the time. My GF's last BF dumped her after a year and went back to his long term ex and married her. My last dumped me. I vanished from her life. 5-6 months later, she came back, wanting another chance. Now, I really loved this crazy gal, despite her issues but I knew she wasn't healthy for me. I told her to pack sand and stayed with my current GF who I loved more. You're doing the right things here in being NC, blocking and erasing her from your life. You need to change your mindset and NOT accept the thought of being someone's second choice. Focus it on finding someone new who would never kick you to the curb like this last ex did. 4
Author drseuss Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 i agree that doing nc ect is the right thing and i never thought 6 weeks ago i would feel so much better,and aklot of that info came from here ! my well being is back and im not wallowing 24/7 , i feel back in control , i obviously still think about her and have some down moments but i am able to quickly snap myself out of them . i would never just take her back at the the drop if a hat if she wanted to come back ive seen alot about exs coming back when they were in fairly normal r/s , but i was a sort of rebound for 10 months and i wanted to know more if anyone else has been a rebound , been dumped because their partner has realised they are not over their ex then that person came back later on ,
Author drseuss Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 would love to hear other people stories on this kind of situation . thanks
aloneinaz Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 would love to hear other people stories on this kind of situation . thanks My friend, you discussing her potentially coming back to you is not helping you move on. Ask yourself why you'd want to consider taking someone back that's already dumped you to run back to an ex? I know it hurts and you're healing but you need to think about your next great R/S vs. spinning your wheels living in the past, thinking about this failed one. So, she comes back, pleads for another shot w/you. What happens when she vacillates and then decides that she really misses her 12 year ex and has to give it ONE MORE SHOT and dumps you a second time? At the end of the day, she simply didn't love you or connect with you enough. Had she done that, she wouldn't of left you to go back to her ex. An example- My ex reappeared 5-6 months after dumping me. I'd moved on and had a new GF. Now, I REALLY loved this ex when we were together. But, I realized that she'd already broken up with me once and knew that reconciliations rarely work out. I really loved my new GF more, thus, I told the ex no to getting back together 1
Author drseuss Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 (edited) i know its so true about her not making a connection with me and of course she wouldnt have left me if i was right for her , after all she was 12 years older than me .yet im still struggling , guess i just have to use time as my healer i guess i just feel that if you are really good to someone and you have an amazing time together an old ex is enough to not let them see it properly and i feel that if she can sort her self out with him i hope that she would look back miss what it was , if she got back with him ide be gone for good but she wants to be over him but isnt Edited August 28, 2015 by drseuss
Recommended Posts