easyrider Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 I am a 50 year old woman and really am baffled. Started talking to a guy that I knew 35 years ago. Went to high school with this guy---always an honest, hard-working, good-looking guy. He presently lives, in Colorado, said he was divorce 3 years ago (from the same girl he went with in high school). Thing is, he still lives with ex for financial ease on both of them. He comes here to visit quite often. At first he was coming to just visit me but then he said he would have to spend time with his brother and his mother. Okay, what I didn't know is that he didn't want his brother or mother knowing about me because his mother still has "hopes" for he and his ex. And, this 50 yr. old man didn't want them asking questions which is why he only stayed the night on the weekends (he was "visiting" friends). Didn't want his friends to meet me because one of them might say something to someone and his ex find out as she might throw all of his stuff out. Last time he was in, he "discovered" while talking to his "ex", that they were actually still married!! And boy was he going to find out why the separation papers had not been processed. Now I asked him about the divorce but today he said he was going to ask in a few weeks because she was soooo stressed and besides if he maintains status quo he would stay on her insurance. I also asked him if his kids knew about the "divorce" since they had been "divorced" for 3 years, so he thought. He said his kids didn't know anything. Now this guy and I are talking about going into business together and I told him there was no way I was going to incorporate while he was still married. And I sure wasn't going to "share" my business with her. Also told him I didn't want to be "hidden" like this. He figured he could introduct me as his "business partner" and what goes on behind closed doors is our business. Now, I obviously am stupid because I keep thinking this guy is telling the truth....is that possible? It sounds much more far-fetched now that I'm actually putting it on paper...I love this guy. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Before you do anything with your business, go talk to a lawyer about the entire deal.
Bubbles Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Sounds like he is trying to set you up as his new Maid! You know............? I might be wrong here but.........step back and really read what you said here. Does it sound to you like this man might be having an affair with you and that he is trying to fool everyone involved that he is on the up and up. Unfortunatly I think he is not being honest with: 1) You 2)
Bubbles Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Sounds like he is trying to set you up as his new Maid! You know............? I might be wrong here but.........step back and really read what you said here. Does it sound to you like this man might be having an affair with you and that he is trying to fool everyone involved that he is on the up and up. Unfortunatly I think he is not being honest with: 1) You 2) His wife 3) His children 4) Himself. He is lying to everyone. It's the oldest trick in the book and you are falling for it. Don't be his 'scape goat. Good Luck, bubbles
New_Wife Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by easyrider It sounds much more far-fetched now that I'm actually putting it on paper...I love this guy. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? You answered your own question. But, if love is the litmus test for you to invest your hard-earned money, I'm a very very lovable person - FYI. Damn-near irresistable, in fact.
EnigmaXOXO Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 I think you want this 'tall tale' to be true, so bad, that you're willing to overlook the obvious. It's one thing to invest your hope, but quite another to risk your financial future on a bad gamble. I hope you resist the temptation to throw it all way. Your heart might heal, but you may never recover your investment. Please don't do anything until you have PROOF that this man is not only legally separated --- but divorced! It's shady. He's shady. The whole situation sounds shady. And I think stepping back you already know that, too…
Author easyrider Posted May 12, 2005 Author Posted May 12, 2005 Thanks to all of you. I was hoping against hope I guess. I really wanted to believe this guy was what I thought he was. Unfortunately, all my relationships involved guys that fed me an incredible line, which turned out to be lies. And I've lost money before so I really want to be smart this time. Guys are such a trip----wonder if there are really any out there that aren't. I do deserve better than this and I really resent the fact that I wasn't given the choice of whether or not I wanted to get involved with a married guy. And he is the one calling all the shots. When I put in on paper---it was absolutely ridiculous!!!
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