Been find it hard to cope.

[shanks1991]

Hey everyone,

 

I was in an amazing relationship with this girl in college (relationship lasted 3 and half years). She was my first love in that we did everything together, lost it to each other and she had all the qualities of an amazing girlfriend (great sex, caring and loving, can hold her own against any opinion, intelligent, beautiful). we definitely loved each other then in uni but I graduated a year after her and so it became long distance for 18 more months. During this time we still made things work but when we broke up eventually she told me that she started feeling distant. I didn't know any of this until a month after a break-up. She said she lost all of her feelings towards me and didn't tell me. She kept it in for 6 months or so (but to me there was no signs she was texting regularly, skyping too and even sexting). Now she's already moved on and found some other guy a sailor in India and apparently she's jumping into another long distance relationship. I don't understand it the reason we broke up was the long distance and now she's jumping into one immediately (whether or not the guy is good or not). This makes me question what really happened? Was it me? Did things change in college or after? I know for a year into the realtionship what her feelings were but after that onwards I question everything now. I've since been in NC for 2 months after she told me she's seeing someone else. It's been hard moving on. Any ideas or thoughts?

[15Love]

She might have been getting to know "sailor" much earlier. She probably didn't consider it a thing until she developed feelings.

 

Basically, she moved on long before you thought.

 

All the stuff she was still doing with you was her just transitioning and you were comfortable and safe.

 

Sorry to suggest all this...and I could be wrong, but it's usually the case it situations like this.