A breather is needed after so long

[QueenDeath]

No, I am not completely giving up on committed relationships, I don't have a problem with commitment or anything of the matter. However, when I've been doing serious relationships since high school ( 2010 ) up until August 22, 2015...you just feel drained. You start to wonder if you really did healed from all those past relationships, you start to wonder if you truly know who you are, if you still have more to learn about yourself...

 

You wonder if your ex thinks about you, wondering if you they ever regret making the decision that they made, wondering if they should have just took your plead when you begged, pleaded and asked for a second chance...you start to wonder.....you start to wonder all of these things, do they miss you, think about you, want to message you but don't. You also start to wonder maybe they aren't feeling the feelings you feel after a breakup....

 

I need a breather from serious relationships, like...I'm just tired. All these years of being with different people, and then after this one break up that happened over the weekend....I've had enough.

 

As of now, I decided I should let go and have some fun. Nothing extreme, just causal dating, dating around, to see what I like and don't like. I don't know how else to explain how I am feeling right now...but it's a feeling of being tired and making the decision to do causal and let loose....

 

Thoughts, opinions, perspectives are welcomed and did anyone ever felt this way before?

[d0nnivain]

If you need a break, take one. You have to be happy. It's your life. Enjoy.

[ivionthenet]

Yeah have some time off. I have felt like you before and ended up in another relationship not long after that, which lasted several years. It turned out that I really should have taken the time out way back when I felt like it.

 

But you know being casual is very tricky, because there is a reason why you end up in longer term relationships...some people just aren't the casual type. And you can possibly hurt other people too so just be very clear and careful.

 

I have been single for a few years now (not counting a handful of short term "relationships") and I have learnt so much about myself and grew into a human being that I consider classes better than I have been before.

 

You worth your own time I guess.

[Satu]

I reached the same point and did the same thing

 

I took time out for myself. At first it seemed weird and empty, because I'd lived most of my life as somebodies partner.

 

But I discovered myself and found out that I was a great person in my own right.

 

It completely revolutionised the way I relate to people.

 

I didn't have to be 'somebodies something.'

 

It was a turning point, and my relationships are all thriving now.

 

 

Enjoy enjoying yourself

[Siquijor]

Breathers are great.

 

 

They give you time to evaluate the mistakes you've made in previous relationships and what to look for and what not to look for in a potential future partner.

[Jj66]

After a while you learn the subtle difference between

holding a hand and chaining a soul.

 

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning,

and company doesn’t always mean security.

 

And you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts,

and present's aren’t promises.

 

And you begin to accept your defeats

with your head up and your eyes ahead...

 

With the grace of a woman,

not the grief of a child.

 

And you learn

To build all your roads on today,

 

Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans,

and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

 

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns

if you get too much…

 

So, you plant your own garden,

and decorate your own soul...

Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

 

And you learn that you really can endure…

you really are strong,

you really do have worth.

 

And you learn, and you learn…

with every goodbye,

 

You Learn…