guild11 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 What do guys think if your girlfriend hangs out with old male friend ? Do you ask her where they were and what they talk about ?
d0nnivain Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 If you don't ask what she talks about with female friends, asking about conversations with her male friends isn't appropriate. Pre-existing friends are part of the package. You have to find a way to accept their places in your new SO's life. N.B. this only applies to platonic old friends, not new opposite sex friends or former romantic partners who are still around (unless at least a decade has passed) 2
Syirrus Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 What do guys think if your girlfriend hangs out with old male friend ? Do you ask her where they were and what they talk about ? Absolutely, If you are open enough to be cool with that happening, your GF should be open enough to talk about it. That doesn't make you weak or anything like that.
Author guild11 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 If you don't ask what she talks about with female friends, asking about conversations with her male friends isn't appropriate. Pre-existing friends are part of the package. You have to find a way to accept their places in your new SO's life. N.B. this only applies to platonic old friends, not new opposite sex friends or former romantic partners who are still around (unless at least a decade has passed) I dont know what made her to talk about it, she said she hangs with her friend once in a while and they talk about their lives... She said she has no problem that I see my old female friends but she will be concerned if I see women that I met lately including work collegues.
d0nnivain Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 It's a balance . . . what's good for the goose is good for the gander. I never understood SO's who attempted to control how much time their SO's spend with work colleagues. In my field, it's common for the team to go out for a drink together once in a while. Routine failure to attend that often resulted in the absent person getting less desirable assignments. I can understand an objection to 1 on 1 hanging out but to deprive you of the opportunity for advancement through social interaction doesn't fly.
deadelvis Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 If you don't ask what she talks about with female friends, asking about conversations with her male friends isn't appropriate. Pre-existing friends are part of the package. You have to find a way to accept their places in your new SO's life. N.B. this only applies to platonic old friends, not new opposite sex friends or former romantic partners who are still around (unless at least a decade has passed) I highlighted the important sentence here. Can't emphasize enough how important that distinction is.
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