Otter2569 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I have gotten together with my exGf 3 times for drinks (twice at my house) and almost nothing has happened other than limited kissing. She has turned down all my moves. She wants to get together again. What is up with this??? She has a BF who is out of state now. History: My exGF has tried to get me back several times over the last 1.5 years but she was pretty crazy and I walked away. She would occasion offer to "come over" but I never took her up on it. We eventually met for drinks a few months back. She told me I gave her the best sex she ever had and wanted more even though we were both in a relationship. We made out and had a little grab ass in the parking lot then she dropped off. Which was fine. I just broke it off with my current GF and who calls me that same day - ExGF. Her BF moved to Florida and she plans to join him in a few months.
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I don't really care what she does, why or when. My question is - why do you engage with it and get involved? Sorry, but the only suspect and questionable behaviour here, is yours. She's having her cake and eating it. She's cheating on her BF, with you. Wonder what his opinion would be if he knew? Quit being a sap, and just ignore her. The questions in your post are utterly irrelevant. What the heck are YOU doing - ?! 1
Author Otter2569 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 So far its been drinks, talking and a little kissing which has not been much. Mostly talking. She is the one contacting me and continually wanting to get together. Of course her BF wouldn't like it. She says he is boring in bed and I was wild and fun. I thought she was coming over to have one last night together.
PegNosePete Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 She has a BF who is out of state now. Tell her you're not interested in being anyone's bit on the side, and that you won't see her again until she is free and single.
Author Otter2569 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Irelevent??? It is relevant. I am wondering what her motive is for coming over and wanting to date or what ever you call it? Thanks for your crappy response!
PegNosePete Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 She is using you to make herself feel better. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So far its been drinks, talking and a little kissing which has not been much. Mostly talking. So it's just been her drinking, talking and kissing you, you have never drunk, talked or reciprocated the kissing? Oh I say, jolly well done... Takes 2 to tango, bud... You are more to blame than she is.... She is the one contacting me and continually wanting to get together. If you didn't respond, you wouldn't be breaking No Contact. If she keeps banging on the door, the only damage she's doing is to her knuckles. You don't "answer the door"! You do not respond, reply, react or break No Contact! as it is, by responding - you're the one doing the damage - not her! Of course her BF wouldn't like it. But if you were her BF, you would tolerate her making out with her ex, while you were away, yes? That would be ok with you? If it wouldn't be ok with you - don't do this to HIM!! She says he is boring in bed and I was wild and fun. Cake-eater. Best of both worlds. But she has chosen him, which is why she will move to Florida with him. Doubt she will stay faithful for long though... Some of the guys in Florida are damn fit.... I thought she was coming over to have one last night together Well you thought wrong. Do you still think this? And why are you even discussing it? I thought you said NC would be best?? 1
Author Otter2569 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 I don't care about the exGF from way back. Current exGf from last week different story / different post - TaraBaby. Old ExGF has hounded me off and on for sex for a while now and I never acted on it until recently. She has the FLA BF - great and I dont care a bit. She is a self proclaimed nympho who says we had the best sex (probably says that to everyone) to was pretty much anticipating a FWB thing while she is still here. Shes most likely looking for company and free drinks.
deadelvis Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 My ex was always trying to "stay friends" but then we would have a couple drinks and she'd start making moves. I told her to kick rocks. You should do the same. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 (edited) I don't care about the exGF from way back. Current exGf from last week different story / different post - TaraBaby. Old ExGF has hounded me off and on for sex for a while now and I never acted on it until recently. She has the FLA BF - great and I dont care a bit. She is a self proclaimed nympho who says we had the best sex (probably says that to everyone) to was pretty much anticipating a FWB thing while she is still here. Shes most likely looking for company and free drinks. So, if you are such an advocate of NC, why not implement it? Or is the sex too tempting to turn down? The fact you don't care about her BF is a little callous, don't you think? Surely you would be quite appalled if your GF were to be cuckolding you? Edited August 27, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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