The Prototype Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 GF broke up with me 4 weeks ago, sort of dating this guy she met two weeks, fairly innocent, according to her parents (they are straight shooters with me, and want us to get back together). 1.5 year relationship. I found out she was disappointed about us not moving as fast as she expected marriage wise (unbeknownst to me, she had hoped for last december or valentine's day, and I was thinking later this year. Course I got all of this after we broke up. She says that the last 3 months she felt like things were dying,like we weren't on the same page and didn't want the same thing. She admitted that untold expectations can lead to disappointment in a relationship. She no insists that we stay apart for now and see what happens down the road. We won't date or talk, she says she has to do this right now to figure things out. meanwhile, she can date other people? Is that normal? How can an out of the picture ex compete with this? She obviously wanted to marry me and is hurt by the fact she got disappointed (even if she is being silly). I am wondering when is enough assurance enough? I have told her twice how we are the one for each other, I told her I was planning our engagement for this summer, all the eternal love stuff, blah, blah, blah. Some friends have said she is "testing" my commitment and adoration? But how many times do you have to "fight for her honor" and know if she is resisting or wants you to fight? If I quit, will I lose her? if I push, will she simply think "I have him now!" and toy with me?
laRubiaBonita Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 i say WTF Ever! let her play het stupid games with some other poor schmoe's heart. if she is thinking she is mature enough or even ready to marry you when she will not even let you in on what her problems are....she is mistaken. are you suppoed to be able to read her mind by now? where her folks supposed to fill you in when she gets pissy or upset? MOVE ON! oh, BTW~ it does blow raunchy- nackos that you two split, but if it were to "be".....it would have been.
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