outdated Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Well, just a hint of good news. I finally learned the truth about me and my ex today- she is seeing someone else after two months. At first I was hurt and angry, but then I realized that after some soul searching (and avoiding work ) that the outcome couldn't have been any other way and that even though we had a deep love, there wasn't much else holding us together. She is awesome and we had great times, but in the end, I don't think it would have held us together. It's good to feel like maybe after the dust settles that maybe she was right in calling it off. I need to trust in something bigger. It's a shame when love ends, but it does so for a reason. So that new love may begin. This time it might be the love I was truly looking for. While it's hard that she's with someone else and I am lonely with no prospects, it would have been harder I think to learn this later then sooner, after a longer time of pining. While the pain is new, it's not like when she broke up with me. It's the images of her being happy with someone else that makes me sad, not that I really see her as my soulmate, but that I couldn't give her what she wanted in the end. I think a lot of times what makes you sad at the end of the relationship is not so much that you won't spend any more time with this person, but the frustration that comes with knowing that no matter how hard you tried, the whole thing was destined for failure. The hints were always there, it's just whether or not you choose to ignore them. She didn't. Someday I will be thankful for that. And like I said in an earlier thread: I heard that she was dating someone else and was devestated. Called my friend and told him. This is what he said: My Dad just had a heart attack and is scheduled for bypass surgery on Saturday. Needless to say, My pity party was over. And then it all dawned on me. Trust in hope and hope for trust. I should've know it was destined to fail when she said she hated Elvis Costello.
Illusion24 Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 WOW...I'm happy to read those wise words of wisdom you just wrote. I kinda gave me a little smile that my ex will be ok. He's a handsome gentlemen with a beautiful personality...but as you can see it wasn't enough for me...but that's another story.. I'm glad to see you are starting closure with your heart. Don't give up on love if it's anything you may have gained is a ray of hope that she's still out their for you.
Author outdated Posted May 11, 2005 Author Posted May 11, 2005 Yes NSN, I am sad and happy and relieved at the same time. Sad for the loss of a good friend. Happy at the prospects of another one. Relieved that I don't have to wonder anymore...
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