JewelD Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Quick background, I've been talking to this girl I met on okcupid for about 2 1/2 weeks via text. We haven't met yet bc I'm 2hrs from home for school. We've tried to skype/facetime, but the timing/devices never seem to match up. During the 1st week, she was really hot and cold and I couldn't tell if she was interested. When I told her this, she kinda blew me off and stopped talking to me. Then a week later we started texting again. She was really good about responding to texts these past few days, but we texted over 24hrs ago and she still has yet to respond. She mentioned she has a short attention span, so I accepted the fact that her texting would be sporadic, however, it's starting to drag. We're not getting very far by texting and I really would like to skype and then arrange a real date if we like each other. I don't want a pen pal. How can I get my point across to her without coming off too harsh? I really just want to take the next step forward but I don't want her to feel like I'm rushing things.
jen1447 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Go ahead and be assertive - a lot of women find that attractive. 2
Author JewelD Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Go ahead and be assertive - a lot of women find that attractive. Last time I did though, she was turned off and stopped talking to me for awhile. I do want to continue being assertive, but I don't want to scare her away.
jen1447 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 There may be some natural selection going on here then hon. If she doesn't like assertiveness and you're assertive, maybe you're not a good fit. I wouldn't change yourself just to maneuver into a favorable dating position. If being assertive's what's not really you tho, I suppose you could just ask her very demurely. 1
Author JewelD Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 There may be some natural selection going on here then hon. If she doesn't like assertiveness and you're assertive, maybe you're not a good fit. I wouldn't change yourself just to maneuver into a favorable dating position. If being assertive's what's not really you tho, I suppose you could just ask her very demurely. Well, I'm used to dating men and being pursued by them. I initiated the contact with her so I sort of put myself in the role of the pursuer. I'd rather it be her, but she wasn't really doing as much as I would have liked, so I kinda stuck with the role. But ur right! It definitely shouldn't be this complicated. Whether I hear from her or not, I'm going to text her about it tomorrow afternoon. If she decides to blow me off again, ah well, she's too much damn work for someone I've never even met. 1
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