loveflower Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) besides the womanly inconvenient things, a woman generally is smaller and weaker physically than a man. and yet we have to be on our own. we have to compete for jobs etc...with man. and guess who they will choose if qualification is the same? a woman is disadvantageous in career. and now a day, a woman even pays for her coffee while dating a man. you can count on a man exactly nothing. I am sicken tire of being a woman. just my views and personal experience any way. I hate being small and weak. I wish I were a man. Edited August 26, 2015 by loveflower
mrs rubble Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So are you considering gender reassignment???? 2
Author loveflower Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 So are you considering gender reassignment???? too late now. I am already born smaller. no reassignment is gonna change that. I know most women don't share the same view as me. What is the secret?
mrs rubble Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 too late now. I am already born smaller. no reassignment is gonna change that. I know most women don't share the same view as me. What is the secret? I know some pretty small men!! You're concerned about your size then not your gender??? Really attitude is everything, you need to be assertive to be noticed, you perceive yourself as small and insignificant (by the sounds of things) and until you change this, that's how other's will relate to you.
Quiet Storm Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I'm smaller and weaker than a man, but that's fine with me. I don't really need to be as big and strong as a man. I have my own strengths. There's no need to compete with men. Women are different, but just as valuable and important. It's true that there are still more challenges for us in the workplace, but there are many successful women. Most employers appreciate smart, driven and talented women. Just be yourself. Learn your strengths, weaknesses, talents and shortcomings- not in comparison to a man (such as physical strength), but as an individual human being. You may not be able to beat up a guy or run a mile in five minutes, but certainly you have positive qualities about yourself that you can be proud of. 7
Popsicle Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 It is hard but it helps if you hang around other women. They will understand and help.
newmoon Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 it could be your grammar holding you back and not your gender.
almond Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I'm a woman, and I don't feel small and weak when it comes to living my life. Every person faces challenges...it's the choice to push through and fight for happiness and success that's important, not to sit in a corner and boo hoo about things being hard...blaming everything and everyone else. Your problem is your self-esteem, self-worth and this victim mentality...not your gender. 2
Maleficent Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Do stuff that make you feel strong and badass. Suggestions: crossfit, weightlifting (olympic or power lifting), roller derby, play in a metal band
Author loveflower Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 I'm smaller and weaker than a man, but that's fine with me. I don't really need to be as big and strong as a man. I have my own strengths. There's no need to compete with men. Women are different, but just as valuable and important. It's true that there are still more challenges for us in the workplace, but there are many successful women. Most employers appreciate smart, driven and talented women. Just be yourself. Learn your strengths, weaknesses, talents and shortcomings- not in comparison to a man (such as physical strength), but as an individual human being. You may not be able to beat up a guy or run a mile in five minutes, but certainly you have positive qualities about yourself that you can be proud of. unfortunately, I have to compete with men. I am in IT. I just feel I don't have the mental and physical strength to study endless technologies anymore.
Author loveflower Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Do stuff that make you feel strong and badass. Suggestions: crossfit, weightlifting (olympic or power lifting), roller derby, play in a metal band um, I rollerblading, snowboarding/skiing...do they count? I am actually a bit more daredevil than many women.
Author loveflower Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 I'm a woman, and I don't feel small and weak when it comes to living my life. Every person faces challenges...it's the choice to push through and fight for happiness and success that's important, not to sit in a corner and boo hoo about things being hard...blaming everything and everyone else. Your problem is your self-esteem, self-worth and this victim mentality...not your gender. I listen and read this and that self-help books and audio...but guess what can really help my self-esteem is actually accomplish something. I do feel pretty rotten about myself now. so many things so demanding I just feel overwhelmed and not up to them and don't want to do them. I just don't feel strong enough for this world...
casey.lives Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Most senior management positions seem to be female preferential. Most men, in my experience, gladly pay for a woman. And being small has it's advantages.. like being faster or more limber. Being a woman, isn't about your physical appearance, it's about being secure and facing the world in spite of the conditions. Being a woman is a maturation of the girl. I love being a woman!!
Methodical Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 How you choose to handle adversity shows your strength and intelligence, not physical stature and gender. 2
Robert Z Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) unfortunately, I have to compete with men. I am in IT. I just feel I don't have the mental and physical strength to study endless technologies anymore. It sounds to me like this is more about your choice in careers than gender. Maybe you should change majors? Any student can feel frustrated and consider giving up. So you need to ask yourself if this is just a down time for you. Being a high-tech student can be a killer. But if you REALLY hate what you're doing, then do something else. Or when you say study, do you mean as a part of your job? But the principle applies either way. No use doing something you hate. Edited August 26, 2015 by Robert Z 1
Shining One Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I just feel I don't have the mental and physical strength to study endless technologies anymore.It sounds like you're in the wrong field. I'm also in IT and I look forward to studying and playing with endless technologies. What do you do in IT? 1
Gloria25 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I kidd you not, my fav podcaster was talking about this advertisement in her opening: http://www.independent.co.uk/incoming/article10449833.ece/alternates/w620/bic-pens.jpg - Look like a girl - Act like a lady - Think like a man - Work like a boss I love it ^^ and that's what I strive for. I think like Madonna's Song 'what it feels like for a girl' - believe it or not, we have the best of both worlds. We can be strong - yet feminine. We can put on a jeans and baseball cap then heels and a sexy dress - something that Caitlyn Jenner can't even pull off w/o looking ridiculous. The key is learning how to be strong, a boss, feminine and when/how to use it my dear I will admit though, that what I hate about being a woman in this day/age is while we're being told by the women's movement to be/do this or that - I think we've been set up for failure. I recently was messaging someone on here on how I'm an absolute turn off for men. How, my independence and strength intimidates many of them. And, I think that's sad. While at one coin, IMO, men are becoming emasculated and being ran over by women - at the same time, they are scared to embrace a woman who in essence is like me. Also, IMO, it's also sad as a woman that chivalry is dead, IMO. Men don't know how to pick a wife and mother for their kids. They are more worried about whether or not she's ok with farting around them, being their roommate, and paying half/all his bills. If a woman is the type who wants to bring him a beer to "treat" him when he's working on her car and/or cutting their grass - he's suspicious and feels smothered - when those are basic ways a woman would show respect, admiration, and passion for her man. Oh, I forgot, that's soooo 50's and who wants an "old fashioned" chick? So, yeah, when it comes to what I hate about being a woman - my biggest gripe is about dating woes. Besides that, I'm happy to have grown up in a time where I can seek my own job, home, things, etc - w/o having to marry and/or have kids as my only options in life as a means to put food on my table.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 For you OP, the main things I hate about being male is being expected to make the first move, approach and ask out, be the initiator, and being judged, valued so much on career and finances, stability, etc.
readynow Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Love! I love being a girl, woman, lady, female! In career, you can go as far as you like and if you're not advancing in your environment, you simply find somewhere else where you can grow or you use your creativity to help others. Feel no pressure to compete with any man, compete with yourself and enjoy your work. In life, be 100% woman. Be small and 'weak' and be treated delicately if it feels good. There are a whole range of clothes and accessories to adorn yourself with, tons to do with your face and hair - men don't really have that opportunity. As a woman, you can be free to be beautiful and enjoy your place in this world! A smart independent woman can get away with anything! She can run her own world and the world of others. The only problem is women trying to conform to others' expectations of themselves. Why live as others want? If one man doesn't appreciate you, cut him loose and give space to another. Don't hate the guy, it's his life. If another woman's view is stressing you out, ignore her, she's entitled to her views just like you are to yours. In love, value yourself so that no one can devalue you. You have millions to choose from so don't settle. I love being smaller than the men I hang around with. I feel like I'm so deep and still sensitive, emotional but tough! I feel like I have so much power over my life and when things go wrong, I know that This Too Shall Pass. Never feel bad about being a woman. It's an amazing world to be in and I've never felt so free! 2
Maleficent Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 um, I rollerblading, snowboarding/skiing...do they count? I am actually a bit more daredevil than many women. All leagues have a basic training program. Whether you can skate or not atm moment, you can join. If you don't mind letting me know what town you're in (pm) I can easily find a league neat you. If not, goggling your town roller derby should do the trick 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) ..."goggling"...? It has a nice ring to it.... I LOVE being a woman. Chiefly because as far as I am concerned, I can count the intelligent, intellectually attractive, stimulating, interesting and thoroughly lovely guys I know, on the fingers of one hand. For the most part, I find the majority of adult males distinctly shallow, immature, uninteresting and I can take 'em or leave 'em. A select minority, I even have utter contempt for. Seriously, it takes an extremely special guy to stop me in my tracks. And they're as rare as hen's teeth. Sorry fellahs. Edited August 26, 2015 by TaraMaiden2
Got it Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Outside of physical strength why do you feel being female is weaker? Do you really feel that women are weaker mentally? Why? I haven't ever felt like that. I see obstacles as challenges and have grown faith in myself and my strengths by accepting the challenges and overcoming them. I am in a male dominated industry, at almost the top level at a fairly young age pulling in an income that is in the top 5%. I think I have done pretty damn well. But it's because I haven't taken no for an answer. My mantra is "regroup and hit again". And my nickname is "bulldog". So weak is not something people think of when they think of me. And physically I maneuver 1300 pound animals (horses) over huge solid jumps out in fields and woods, asking them to trust what I am asking on terrain and questions they haven't encountered yet. I ask them to use their body in ways that are asking them to stretch their core muscles and minds and doing so in partnership to me, without us speaking anywhere close to similar languages. I have been bucked off, reared and flipped on, fallen off 100s of times, stepped on, given a black eye, etc. I stack 50+ pound hay bales by the 100, muck stalls, pull a truck and rig, etc. Sorry, but I think I am pretty bad a$$. 2
kylle Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Wanna switch genders with me? Then you'll spend your day trying to please someone while I complain the whole time.
Els Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) Being smaller and physically weaker is less of a disadvantage now than ever, in the wake of civilized society and technology. If you feel you 'don't have the mental strength to study IT', it's probably because you're not suited for that career, not due to being a woman - women have been proved to be the intellectual equals of men many times over. Consider switching careers maybe. Edit: I just read that you spent most of your life in Asia, just like I did - that probably has a lot to do with your perception and dislike of your own gender. When I was younger I used to think that I hated being a woman too, but it was really some of the views that my culture traditionally imposed on women that I hated, not being a woman in and of itself. When you let go of those misconceptions, you might find yourself much more at peace with your gender. Edited August 26, 2015 by Elswyth 1
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