Is it even worth giving interracial relationships with White-American women a shot?

[Aztecgentlman480]

As a young 1st generation Mexican-American guy in the US, I honestly don't even know if it's worth it. I've met plenty of white women in my area(Arizona, USA) who are aesthetically beautiful but we're just far too different from cultures and beliefs. Besides, most white women in my visual experience seem prefer men of their own race, especially if he's an athletic rich guy who caters to their every want and need.

 

It's whatever though. I still have women of my own ethnic group.

[casey.lives]

you should like a person on an individual basis not because of their race. like who you like.

[Lady2163]

I would date a Hispanic man and make a sincere attempt to learn the culture and language. I would date a man outside of my race and nationality (Caucasian/American) if he treated me right and we had things in common and I found him attractive (which is completely possible). I like all types of men.

 

But.....

 

Part of "treating me right" does mean that there are going to have to be some cultural compromises on BOTH parts. If your culture believes that it is perfectly acceptable to get drunk 2-3 times a month with your friends and screw the first woman you see, that isn't treating me the way I expect to be treated. If you lose face with your friends and male members of your family because you won't do that, too bad.

 

Not that I even think for one minute that is part of Mexican culture. I wanted to use an extreme example.

 

Language can be exclusionary. If you took someone to a family holiday get together who didn't speak Spanish, would she be left out of most of the conversation?

 

I did date a man once in a similar situation where there was a language barrier. Prior to family get together, he spoke to a few of his relatives who spoke English and specifically asked they make an attempt to speak English and include me. That was a nice touch.

[Aztecgentlman480]

I would date a Hispanic man and make a sincere attempt to learn the culture and language. I would date a man outside of my race and nationality (Caucasian/American) if he treated me right and we had things in common and I found him attractive (which is completely possible). I like all types of men.

 

But.....

 

Part of "treating me right" does mean that there are going to have to be some cultural compromises on BOTH parts. If your culture believes that it is perfectly acceptable to get drunk 2-3 times a month with your friends and screw the first woman you see, that isn't treating me the way I expect to be treated. If you lose face with your friends and male members of your family because you won't do that, too bad.

 

Not that I even think for one minute that is part of Mexican culture. I wanted to use an extreme example.

 

Language can be exclusionary. If you took someone to a family holiday get together who didn't speak Spanish, would she be left out of most of the conversation?

 

I did date a man once in a similar situation where there was a language barrier. Prior to family get together, he spoke to a few of his relatives who spoke English and specifically asked they make an attempt to speak English and include me. That was a nice touch.

 

Well, if it's possible for me, then that's definately great. I'm all for being a gentleman but I wonder how you white ladies would treat your man in a relationship regarding reciprocation. I don't expect a lot from a woman in a relationship with me but it would be definately great for the woman in the relationship with me gets me gifts on special days after all the hard work I'd try to do to provide nice things for her. Doesn't necessarily have to be expensive things. They can be simple things or a simple thing along with a nice cuddle and hug after the simple gift.

[jay1983]

As a young 1st generation Mexican-American guy in the US, I honestly don't even know if it's worth it. I've met plenty of white women in my area(Arizona, USA) who are aesthetically beautiful but we're just far too different from cultures and beliefs. Besides, most white women in my visual experience seem prefer men of their own race, especially if he's an athletic rich guy who caters to their every want and need.

 

It's whatever though. I still have women of my own ethnic group.

 

Yeah most won't even give you a glance. Don't be surprised if the white women interested are a little on the heavy side.

[loverboy69]

Great post.

 

Although many mistake me for being white I'm part Latino and I don't hide it.

 

I get hit on by a lot of Caucasian men; especially the ones with German, Scandinavian or Norwegian backgrounds. I don't know why but it just always happens this way. The man I love today is of that background too.

 

Usually what happens is I'll be at a bar and a caucasian guy will come up and start ordering a "cerveza," and try to throw spanish words at the bartender while throwing glances and smiles at me. It's almost like they are trying to impress me with their spanish skills. I know what they are doing and it's cute.

 

My advice to you is to use your cultural differences to your advantage when dealing with the ladies. But don't go overboard and start waving the Mexican flag in their faces because that would be a total turn off. You may be of Mexican decent but you are an American so it's expected that you act like an American and own the nation you live in. When you refer to her keep in mind she is American too so avoid making things seem like she's American and you are not.

 

You might be facing a misconception by some that as a 1st generation M-American that you'd except your lady friend to be subservient. American women don't want to stuck at home cooking and cleaning and rightfully so. They are your equal and should always be respected that way.

 

You'll be okay. Have fun and come back and let us know if you meet someone special! Don't worry too much about women who might not want to date you. There are plenty who will.

[Aztecgentlman480]

Great post.

 

Although many mistake me for being white I'm part Latino and I don't hide it.

 

I get hit on by a lot of Caucasian men; especially the ones with German, Scandinavian or Norwegian backgrounds. I don't know why but it just always happens this way. The man I love today is of that background too.

 

Usually what happens is I'll be at a bar and a caucasian guy will come up and start ordering a "cerveza," and try to throw spanish words at the bartender while throwing glances and smiles at me. It's almost like they are trying to impress me with their spanish skills. I know what they are doing and it's cute.

 

My advice to you is to use your cultural differences to your advantage when dealing with the ladies. But don't go overboard and start waving the Mexican flag in their faces because that would be a total turn off. You may be of Mexican decent but you are an American so it's expected that you act like an American and own the nation you live in. When you refer to her keep in mind she is American too so avoid making things seem like she's American and you are not.

 

You might be facing a misconception by some that as a 1st generation M-American that you'd except your lady friend to be subservient. American women don't want to stuck at home cooking and cleaning and rightfully so. They are your equal and should always be respected that way.

 

You'll be okay. Have fun and come back and let us know if you meet someone special! Don't worry too much about women who might not want to date you. There are plenty who will.

 

It's like what I said to one of the other post to my thread here. I don't expect a lot from a woman in a relationship with me but I think it would be definately great for the woman in the relationship with me gets me gifts on special days after all the hard work I woud try to do to provide nice things for her. Doesn't necessarily have to be expensive things. They can be simple things or a simple thing along with a nice cuddle and hug after the simple gift. She doesn't have to be a good cook but it would be nice to at least provide some groceries and assistance since I currently use a lot of my money on college education and maintaining my truck. She also doesn't have to be subservant as long as she already shows respect to me and respects that I have different beliefs and cultures.

[Lady2163]

It's like what I said to one of the other post to my thread here. I don't expect a lot from a woman in a relationship with me but I think it would be definately great for the woman in the relationship with me gets me gifts on special days after all the hard work I woud try to do to provide nice things for her. Doesn't necessarily have to be expensive things. They can be simple things or a simple thing along with a nice cuddle and hug after the simple gift. She doesn't have to be a good cook but it would be nice to at least provide some groceries and assistance since I currently use a lot of my money on college education and maintaining my truck. She also doesn't have to be subservant as long as she already shows respect to me and respects that I have different beliefs and cultures.

 

Aztec - I see now that you did mention you were young. I'm going to guess between 18-24.

 

If you are dating college age women, they probably don't have a lot of money. If you give a girl a single carnation and took her out for a pizza on her birthday, you can't expect a steak dinner and the newest iPhone for yours.

 

Cooking and domestic skills take time to learn and perfect. I'm a much better cook in my late 40s than I was as a newlywed at 23.

 

The priorities you have compared to the priorities I have make me smile.