Author HurtHusband Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 The kids have dual citizenship. I won't take them anywhere. We can all go back and once there I will just refuse to go back with the kids.. Why the hell should I? Accept a system that says I have no rights and says I should just walk. I accept the fact that I came to this country and married her. But i am the kids father and as my wife has threatened to kill one of them, I will decide what's best for them. And what's best for them is to grow up in a loving safe environment where they have the right to see and know both parents. This country must be one of the only countries in the world that endorses sole custody, one parent losing all legal parental rights once you divorce. You cease to be a legal guardian once you divorce, forget about the fact your a biological parent. This system undermines marriage. Divorces happen in every culture. But for kids to suddenly lose one parent with no consideration for the affect this has on them and for this to be considered, normal, or 'in the best interests of the child? She can huff and puff and find a lawyer and do whatever she wants.. There are senators in the US calling for sanctions to be imposed on this country as it is literally a black hole for child abduction and does not recognize any form of custody orders from outside or their right to see their kids..
Author HurtHusband Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 (edited) Woops double post Edited August 27, 2015 by HurtHusband
Author HurtHusband Posted August 27, 2015 Author Posted August 27, 2015 She has used the threat of divorce before to put me back in my box. She has said I can see them once a month or that she'd change schools to stop me seeing them. I just can't trust her as far as I could throw her. If I have custody or if it's shared custody, she can see them as much as she wants for all I care. I am just tired of being jerked around
goodyblue Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 I thought you had a plan to leave this summer and take the kids to school in your home country. What happened to that plan. I recall you were applying for jobs in your home country. Quite frankly with her threats of abuse, I'd take the kids and relocate to a country she wouldn't think I would go to. One that recognised you have equal rights to your kids and I would put an all points bulletin at the Airports/Seaports l that meant the kids could not leave that country without your permission. Definetly never to return to Japan until they are adults. You are in a country that doesn't recognise your rights as a father , because you are foreign. You need to be on equal ground. No good mother threatens to kill their child. I have six kids. I will say that it is the most stressful job I have ever had and I ran my own business. That being said, it is not ok to threaten to kill your kids. I have said before ' Oh my god, my kids are making me batsh*t crazy and I want to kill them' in an exasperated d way, but never calm l y stated that I may harm one or more of my kids. This could be your opportunity to get them out of her care. Air would use it to my advantage. Record her, Belgium her, have her committed if she is so crazy. Good luck.
Clarence_Boddicker Posted August 27, 2015 Posted August 27, 2015 Since she's clearly mentally unstable, call in the men in white suits to toss her into a padded cell for a bit. Think long & hard about the best interests & welfare of your kids. I believe that they would be better of only seeing their mom in limited supervised situations. BTW your 5 yo is not causing any of your wife's issues, those are all in her own head. She has some scrambled circuits in her brain.
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