Liono84 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) I've spent a lot of time on this board the past several weeks and it has been very therapeutic. You hear stories from friends in real-life, or from others on this board on how they are copping with their post-breakup all the time. The unsolved riddle goes something like this; When will I get over my ex? How long does this feeling last? Why can't I be happy anymore? Will she/he ever contact me? I'll NEVER find someone I love like him/her. I still can't get over him/her and it's been xxxx long. Etc, etc........ Everyone ask the same question. Whether it was a prior short/long term relationship, engagement, or marriage that dissolved. Yet, no one has the answer to this riddle because there is no answer. Ultimately, it comes down to YOU. It is very comparable to people who are in danger of dying and are battling for their lives. Although there are many exceptions, in general, a lot of the rules apply. You see/hear it all the time. There are people who, for example, get cancer and give-in fairly shortly. And then, there are people who I like to use the term as the "Strong Will Individual" types. The people who fight, crawl and battle the dreaded fight. They don't feel sorry for themselves, or ask God why me or keep reflecting on how they can't overcome the situation. Their only objective is to do everything humanly possible to get out of the situation. I know this is a sensitive comparison, and I'm in no way shape or form saying that a human being can fight and survive anything. Some things are indeed, inevitable but you get my point. My aunt is a doctor and she has told me this many times before. Same thing with breakups. There are people who get over their ex fairly quickly no matter the length/love of the relationship. And then there are people who take a long, longgggg time to move on. They feel sorry for themselves, live in the past and in doing so, waste precious opportunities that may await them to find something just as good, if not better. The "Strong Will Individual" types don't feel sorry for themselves. They look at it and say, it's the other partners loss. They let the past be the past. They go NC and never look back or have hopes the Dumper will contact them again. If you are going to continue living in the past, feel sorry for yourself, or daydream when your ex will contact you, it can take you infinitely as long to get over somebody compared to the "Strong Will Individual" types. Heck, you may fall into the category of being one of those who NEVER get over their ex. It's been almost a month since my ex dumped me and I was bling-sided by it. I'm not going to lie, it's been very tough on me. I've posted my story here recently, as we were in a long-distance relationship. However, although I still think about her every day and will probably do so for awhile longer, I don't allow my thoughts to control me. I'm fully aware that's it's only up to ME to get past this and I ask all you here to do the same. Edited August 24, 2015 by Liono84 5
philsach890 Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 This was an amazing post, thankyou i really needed to read this today and i love the analogies! 1
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