Samuel_22 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) on 13th day of no contact here, I feel awfully tired, my ex left me for someone that I think is her ex, well I don't care, at least I try to, I left the doors open for her, now I regret doing so, wrong piece of advice, someone gave me was to leave doors open, if you really love her, what love? It is over, kaput...well at least I might get the opportunity to take her back and dump her myself this time, I should have done this earlier, the thing bothering me now is that I feel awfully tired, no matter how much sleep I get, I feel bad... besides I don't find other women attractive, what am I doing wrong? is this normal at all? because during initial days of dating I thought she was damn ugly, of course sometimes I felt she was beautiful and sometimes not, I suppose when she was far away she was damn good, even the last time we went out, I had this internal conflict is she beautiful at all? now after break up she has suddenly turned into the most beautiful gal ever in my god damn mind ) whyyyyy!!!!? are these all normal? Edited August 24, 2015 by Samuel_22 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 now after break up she has suddenly turned into the most beautiful gal ever in my god damn mind ) whyyyyy!!!!? are these all normal? Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Everything you are going through is perfectly natural. The first month of my BU I was a wreck. Lost 10 lbs, insomnia, anxiety, panic attackts etc. You name it, I probably went through it. We all cope in our own way. Your emotions are too raw right now. The way you feel is like a pendulum swinging back and forth. One minute she's repugnant, the next she's a beautiful rose. Just keep up the NC, don't let your thoughts dissuade you from moving forward. 2
Seth0194 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Everything you are going through is perfectly natural. The first month of my BU I was a wreck. Lost 10 lbs, insomnia, anxiety, panic attackts etc. You name it, I probably went through it. We all cope in our own way. Your emotions are too raw right now. The way you feel is like a pendulum swinging back and forth. One minute she's repugnant, the next she's a beautiful rose. Just keep up the NC, don't let your thoughts dissuade you from moving forward. ^^^^^^^^^ It is very normal, also forget the revenge to take her back and dump her, best thing you can do is move on with life and know you used your time in a positive way. 2
Author Samuel_22 Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Everything you are going through is perfectly natural. The first month of my BU I was a wreck. Lost 10 lbs, insomnia, anxiety, panic attackts etc. You name it, I probably went through it. We all cope in our own way. Your emotions are too raw right now. The way you feel is like a pendulum swinging back and forth. One minute she's repugnant, the next she's a beautiful rose. Just keep up the NC, don't let your thoughts dissuade you from moving forward. You are an absolute gem on this website, I dunno, but every time you say something to me, well I become much stronger! Thank you so much... 2
casey.lives Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 you dumped a girl because you didn't know if she was good looking ??? i think it's best to walk away. you might unknowingly turn emotionally abusive.
Author Samuel_22 Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 you dumped a girl because you didn't know if she was good looking ??? i think it's best to walk away. you might unknowingly turn emotionally abusive. Nooooooo.... I never dump anyone because I think they are not as beautiful as I want.... Neverrrrrrr...This is so childish, she dumped me to go back to her ex, and I am trying to remember negative things, this helps me I suppose, remembering that well... she was not that beautiful after all at this stage that I am dumped, can't be wrong, I have to help myself...well this is one way... I dunno
Gus Grimly Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 You are an absolute gem on this website, I dunno, but every time you say something to me, well I become much stronger! Thank you so much... I appreciate that, thank you. Perhaps one day you'll do the same for someone else. :) I have to help myself...well this is one way... I dunno I totally understood what you were trying to say. I think many of us focus too much on the "happy memories" and it causes us to become sad and depressed. Do whatever you can to help get past this rough time in your life. She hurt you and this is your way of working it out. Perhaps once you've made peace with it, you won't feel so fatigued. Keep posting your thoughts! 1
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