naomnaom87 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Hi all, I'm new here and i really need some serious advice here. Okay the r/s started last month and it ended last week. Although i was the one who called it off twice, but i don't know why i kinda miss her now and i want her back. I tried to google for answers and looked through my guides and the common solution is to use NC. However, i'm not sure whether NC is really a good solution because she was not the one who ended it and furthermore, we are working in the same company. Things would be even more awkward when we see each other in the office. And the reason why i ended it is because i felt that she lied to me too many times. You guys may find it funny. I mean since she lied to me so many times and it's a short term r/s, i might as well move on. Few days after the break up, we still texted a bit but most of the time, she will ignore my texts. Until last fri evening, she told me that she would apps me later but she didn't and she just mia for the whole night. And i kinda suspect that she is dating but she denied. So, while i was having dinner with a friend on sat, i opened my instagram. And what i saw is something that i didn't expect. She uploaded a photo of her and a guy and both of them were very close to each other and the caption stated that she has found her true love. When i asked her about it, she just said he is only her friend and he dare her to post it on instagram. From last weekend until now, she never text me anymore. I'm really confused and feeling damn ****ty about it. Any advices out there? Please help me
coryreply Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Hi OP. Welcome! I understand where you're coming from here. What were the things she lied about? Was it big stuff or small stuff? What was her motivation in lying to you?
sandylee1 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 You dumped her and now you don't seem to want her to move on. Just leave her be and find someone else. It messes with your mind and ruins your self esteem when you get dumped. Just let it go.
Author naomnaom87 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Hi OP. Welcome! I understand where you're coming from here. What were the things she lied about? Was it big stuff or small stuff? What was her motivation in lying to you? In my opinion, it's considered big and empty promises as well. I really don't know what is her motivation. My ego was affected damn badly cos I just realized today that few days after our breakup, she is actually seeing a BOY who is younger than her by 5 years and previously, when I asked her about the photo she took, she just kept saying that they are just friends. I mean who the hell will believe what you said based on the way you took the shot and the caption you put on Instagram :mad:
Author naomnaom87 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 You dumped her and now you don't seem to want her to move on. Just leave her be and find someone else. It messes with your mind and ruins your self esteem when you get dumped. Just let it go. I agree with what you said. My friends told me that she is just a waste of time. I told her before that I don't like to be either an office or virtual couple. She even mentioned to me before that meeting her 3 days a week is considered less but she prefers to meet me on sat cos she wants to spend the whole day with me. So, when I always planned to meet her during weekends, she will just cancel at the last min. That makes me think that you are just a NATO (No Action Talk Only)
organizedchaos Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 WAYYYY to much drama for a "relationship" that lasted a month. You broke up twice in that period of time? She lied so many times? How can you even consider someone a girlfriend after such a short time. Move on. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Why would you want to get back together? Breaking up twice in a month is ridiculous and shows you weren't a match. Stay the heck off her IG, too. I think she's trying to move on. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Like many others I can't fathom why you want somebody back when you broke up twice during 30 days in what should have been the honeymoon phase when everything was blissful & easy. If it's already this unstable, there is little hope that it will get better. Move forward in your life to a new GF, not backwards to a person who has already proved incompatible.
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