Lovelife789 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 I need help. I have been dating my BF since I was 17 years old(now 21)We have had some pretty rocky times but other than that I am completely in love with him. A few months ago I started hanging out with a new group of people and really experiencing "college life" for the first time. This lasted for about a month. During this month it was pretty much one big party. I was drinking a lot, going on trips, etc. I met a boy that I seemed to have a "crush" on. We hung out during this time and things would go too far (never sex) considering I had a boyfriend back home. During the time I just did not think anything of it but looking back I have no idea who I even was then. It was completely out of character for me. Up until this point I had been the most loyal and faithful girlfriend. Thinking back it makes me sick And I can't even imagine doing it again. Months later and I am consumed with guilt every single day. I haven't told my BF because I really don't want to lose him or hurt him. He truly is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
PaperCrane Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Well, being as young as you are and the college social life being what it is, these things do happen. Not that it is any moral excuse, but that's the flow of the energy. You need to come clean. Pronto. Also, don't let your guilt fuel your elastic bounce back to your bf. You may find yourself overinvesting as a coping mechanism for your guilt and then when your guilt subsides and if he's not as invested you'll resent him for it. Vicious cycle. Just be honest with him and move on from there. It's the only real option if what you say about being with him forever is true.
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