1 month no contact , rebound and exs ex !

[drseuss]

i want to be brief but i met my ex 10 months ago and she had she was breaking up with her long term on / off bf of 12 years ! she is 10 years older than me. he had moved away to another contry and she didnt feel the same anymore ,

 

we got together and she at first didnt want anything serious and i understood why but thiongs slowly progressed into our realtionship , i met her family alot and she met mine and things were going at a steady and happy rate and we had such a nice time together with alot of close intamacy , then the ex came back after we had been at it for about 4-5 months and she met up with him through guilt of breaking up with him over the phone

 

, it totaly rocked her world and we broke up , a week later of nc she was back and she said she had planned to stay single but missed me and we carried on , but things wernt the same and she ended up freaking out 3 more times and needed space untill we finaly broke up a month ago , he was texting and emailing her during the relationship and wanted her back and she said she was no going to ignore him , she was really struggling to let her past go and says thing like 12 years is such a long time and i do love him and i always will be friends with him ,and all that **** ,

 

i suggested breaking up a few times and she didnt want to , she did want to move on a leave her past behind but couldnt , she went to a couple of events he was at and eventualy we broke up .it really hurt and i told her i didnt want to hear from her unless it was to reconsile

 

So now we have been in no contact for a month , when we broke up she said she has always kept me at arms lenght and has been able to put 100% and wishes she stuck to her plan to stay single after her break up so she could sort her head out and wished the timing of us meeting was different , i was totaly cool about the break up because i knew it was coming to i had already found how to deal with it .

 

i saw her friend unexspectedly 2 week after the break up and we briefly spoke , i said i obviously missed her and she said my ex said she missed me and that she wasnt back with her origonal ex , that she just didnt feel the same and hadnt been happy in the past 2 years of there rs, i then saw her the next week again ! so unlucky and i was with a girl because i was desperatly trying to move on , meet a girl didnt help btw , we spoke briefly i asked how my ex was but she didnt seem overly botherd about talking about it and just said she was ok , im worried i looked a little desperate asking about her a couple times and she is obviouslt going to tell me ex i was with a girl .

 

she denied i was a rebound but i fear she has so much of a long term connection with this guy she is too weak to break it, she always needed alot of space !! we could go a couple 2-3 days with no talking easy whle she was buzzing around doing all of her little errands and projects.

 

all in all i want to move on and have come very far but am struglling a little after 1 month, i was great week 3 adimant i never wanted to hear from her and was moving on but on day 30 i felt alot of dissapointment ? i guess i just want to outside advice and opinions ,

 

she said she hoped if she could sort her head out it might work outand spoke about the future blah blah blah...... porobaly just said to make me feel better , she is a very deep thinker and has her head in the clouds a bit , poor comincator and very indecisive , part of me want to hear from her and get her back and the rest of me say no ! stay away and move on ,i do miss her and hate felling down and feel stupid for investing so much of my happiness into her , , thanks

Edited August 24, 2015 by drseuss

[drseuss]

I know all of this yet I seem to be hanging on to hope .... the fact she can't make it work with a guy she claims to love and has had 12 years on off with what chance did I have !! I feel most stupid that I'm doing what we call no contact and on a relationship forum and she has probaly hardly thought about it all ....