adrian77 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 She is divorced. He is married, and they are hooking up in her car (or his) after work at the bars. They get drunk and she goes down on him in the car....and also have had sex a few times in the back seat. She is hoping he will leave his wife for her. I don't think he ever would. I mean can you really respect a woman who would do what she is doing that you would want to have a relationship with her? He competely blew her off after for a while but not he is hooking up with her again and calling her etc.....
autumnnight Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 It is my opinion that any person who will cheat with someone probably doesn't respect that person, and that person probably doesn't respect them either (that sentence was confusing. Luckily I bet most people can still decipher it). When you cheat, you are basically saying, "I do not respect commitment and I do not respect myself or others."
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Some will look past it. I know of two married couples who both started off as affairs (all parties were previously married) so I suppose anything is possible. 1
joseb Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 My ex cheated on me with a guy from her work. I could never trust her or respect her after that. But she ended up marrying the guy and they have 3 kids, so from his perspective i guess he can! 1
Vercetti Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 If a guy is stupid and feeds his ego how awesome he is that girls will cheat with him, sure. Just most of the time I think the guy or girl is playing themself thinking they are the grand exception. They are hooking up with a cheater, come on.
elaine567 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 She is divorced. He is married, and they are hooking up in her car (or his) after work at the bars. They get drunk and she goes down on him in the car....and also have had sex a few times in the back seat. She is hoping he will leave his wife for her. I don't think he ever would. I mean can you really respect a woman who would do what she is doing that you would want to have a relationship with her? He competely blew her off after for a while but not he is hooking up with her again and calling her etc..... Why do you care?
Vintage79 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Yeah - a guy certainly can respect a woman have she cheats on him, but most guys wouldn't - those that would are likely outlier guys who don't really respect themselves, have low standards, or are desperate... Any self respecting person will have an exceptionally challenging time respecting anyone that cheats on them...gender doesn't matter. Just imagine someone that was deceptive, destroys all trust with you, while simultaneously intentionally trying to hurt you/knowing they are hurting you...
Jj66 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Thought the question was whether they can respect the person they cheat with. Do they usually respect their affair partners? That's a harder question. But they certainly can. If "falling in love" was the reason you ended up having the affair you definitely respect them. It's a prerequisite to falling in love. Not everyone who cheats is actually an evil person even if their actions may be horrible. People are marvelous and compartmentalizing things and not seeing the incongruity of their actions. When otherwise good people end up cheating it's usually because they were unwise and ended up getting emotionally closer to the third party than their own spouse. That's a recipe for something to happen. And then when it happens they are both guilt-ridden and excited. They may even become addicted to the whole thing. When they do end up leaving their spouse for the third party it usually doesn't last.
Author adrian77 Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 I guess it's how you go about it. If you meet someone have have a connection, fight the urge but then end up having an emotion affair that turns into a physical one is one thing (still wrong of course) but can you really respect a women who gets drunk and blows you in the parking lot?
jen1447 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Can a man respect a women who cheats with him? I think he'd at least have to respect her as much as he respects himself.
casey.lives Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 respect is not something a person like this is concerned about. so..
RightThere Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 I mean can you really respect a woman who would do what she is doing that you would want to have a relationship with her? As a man, I can say it is possible. But I would first have to be an idiot.
HereNorThere Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 Dude, there's so many thirsty people out there, that any woman can find a dude, period. She could go on a mass shooting spree and there's some dude out there who would visit her in jail. The case you described, nah, no respect, but that dude doesn't respect anything or anyone. He's a horrible, horrible, emotionally unavailable, damaged person. Which is sadly the reason why she's attracted to him.
Author adrian77 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 So he got really distant on her for months now all of a sudden he is into her again. Calling her (when his wife isn't around) talking for hours? He won't leave his wife though. So what is his angle? He is really into her? Also she is 100 lbs overweight with bad teeth and thin hair. Not that looks are everything but they coupled with the fact she gets **** faced and does what she does (also once with another coworker), could he really be more into her than his wife?
elaine567 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So he got really distant on her for months now all of a sudden he is into her again. Calling her (when his wife isn't around) talking for hours? He won't leave his wife though. So what is his angle? He is really into her? Also she is 100 lbs overweight with bad teeth and thin hair. Not that looks are everything but they coupled with the fact she gets **** faced and does what she does (also once with another coworker), could he really be more into her than his wife? He may indeed love her, stranger things have happened. Love is not just about a thin body, perfect teeth and a full head of hair. Sounds like he does to me. The fact they talk for hours is a big give away, people who talk for hours tend to have a pretty good connection. YOU seem to hate her for some reason, is he your husband?
Revolver Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I never understood guys who get into relationships with women that they cheated with. Like if she can do it to that guy what makes you so special? Lmao Everything she's telling you(I love you baby/ I would never cheat on you) she told to that guy. She probably said it to him right after coming from hooking up with you
Lois_Griffin Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 She is divorced. He is married, and they are hooking up in her car (or his) after work at the bars. They get drunk and she goes down on him in the car....and also have had sex a few times in the back seat. She is hoping he will leave his wife for her. I don't think he ever would. I mean can you really respect a woman who would do what she is doing that you would want to have a relationship with her? He competely blew her off after for a while but not he is hooking up with her again and calling her etc..... He's a bigger scumbag than SHE is, let's just get that on the table first. However, she's acting like a pig crawling into some married guy's car and giving him oral sex. Only an imbecile with no self respect at ALL would think that type of scummy behavior is going to endear her to anyone. About the only thing missing in that whole scenario is him paying her $30 when she's done.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 So he got really distant on her for months now all of a sudden he is into her again. Calling her (when his wife isn't around) talking for hours? He won't leave his wife though. So what is his angle? He is really into her? Also she is 100 lbs overweight with bad teeth and thin hair. Not that looks are everything but they coupled with the fact she gets **** faced and does what she does (also once with another coworker), could he really be more into her than his wife? Sounds as though pig boy only shows an interest in her when his other 'prospects' have dried up. Now, I understand a bit better why she's acting so desperately. Your description of her kind of says she doesn't HAVE a whole lot of options. LOL. He's not more 'into' her. They're both pigs looking for different things, is all.
Author adrian77 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 No it's not my husband and no I don't hate her. I worry maybe he is setting her up? I don't know. She was constantly texted him and IMing him at work and he wouldn't respond to barely anything. Showing up at the bar when he wouldn't respond. He would say he left his phone in the car etc....she was basically stalking him. Then months later they have sex again in the car and now he is all into her? She also has several other married men wanting to hang out with her, text her etc....seems like they all talk?
elaine567 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 No it's not my husband and no I don't hate her. I worry maybe he is setting her up? I don't know. She was constantly texted him and IMing him at work and he wouldn't respond to barely anything. Showing up at the bar when he wouldn't respond. He would say he left his phone in the car etc....she was basically stalking him. Then months later they have sex again in the car and now he is all into her? She also has several other married men wanting to hang out with her, text her etc....seems like they all talk? I think it sounds like she wore him down, and now he is into her big time. It happens.
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