ignite Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 I went to a clothing optional beach and got naked myself around other women. I did not talk to anyone though, male or female, the whole time I was there. So my intention has never been to "flirt or go searching for anyone else." I just have these exhibitionist tendencies where I enjoy the freedom of being naked as well as the thrill of showing off my body to other women. I suppose it's a slight fetish and just another way of expressing my sexuality. No one who knows me personally knows about this. So what's the issue? I did this whilst in a relationship. Is this something I should confess to my partner (she would never know) even though I haven't cheated perse? And if so, as soon as possible or wait for a future moment where we could be having a relevant conversation (say about streaking or skinydipping) and then I could drop it in casually? This is something I rarely do as these beaches exist outside of my country. I have vowed to myself I won't do this again if the opportunity arises (it won't again unless I go abroad), hence why I'm undecided whether or not this should be disclosed. I do genuinely have feelings for my gf and would never be unfaithful to her and I´ve made that clear to her. So I fear about opening up about this.
Toodaloo Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Your getting your knickers in a twist aren't you? Congratulations you have a body and you sometimes walk round naked. Newsflash... every other naked person on that beach was doing exactly the same as you. Why not just share this with your partner? If they want to join in great, if not thats ok. I don't see how walking around in the buff suddenly moves to cheating on someone. One of my neighbours got a flash of me in the buff the other weekend. His wife doesn't think we are now having an affair because of it nor does he think I am sleeping with her because she saw it too! 3
Author ignite Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 I suppose the guilt I have is because i showed off my body to other women. Sure these were all strangers and people I'll never see again and vice versa and of course as I said I had no intention of even talking to anyone but I guess what I feel is that your personal bits should only be viewed by your significant other. Obviously people will have varying opinions on this. 1
Toodaloo Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 Its penises and vaginas. Everyone has one. Its not a great shock. While I agree with your sentiment I am not going to chastise any potential significant other just because they enjoy being in the buff... After all I get to look, but I also get to touch what others can only view... 1
Siquijor Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I haven't got any advice for you unfortunately, OP. I'm just wondering where this beach is. 2
Satu Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I'm guessing that you live in a country where nude bathing is unusual. In Europe it's not unusual at all, and nobody gets excited about it. You lie naked in the sun, enjoy a swim and eat iced cream, just as you would on a beach where people are clothed. It's no big thing. You'll get used to it. 1
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