Special Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) I was dating this girl. We had almost just hit 1 month. Anger got me and I broke up with her out of jealousy, about messages that she wouldn't show me. I didn't communicate with her at all after that, neither did she. Probably a month or more after, she had gotten a new boyfriend. I really had feeling for her and wanted to make things clear. One day I decided to talk to her 1 on 1 and she explained that a lot of things happend in that small time span in which we were seperated for. She had been sick and there was this "caring guy" that was there for her whilst I wasn't. I told her that I really missed her and would like to get back together. She replied that she just used him to get my attention and doesn't like him (something like that) and also missed me. I had my arms around her while talking and she had no problem, but didn't want to go any further. The next day she was acting really strange, she said she missed me the day before but didn't act like that. She was also meeting with her boyfriend almost every day. She said she needs more time to rethink and I gave her a few days. She then told me she'll stay with him because I thought of this too late. I know it's my fault for breaking up with her then expecting to get together, but why would she tell me she missed me and doesn't like that guy then the next day be so different? Edited August 24, 2015 by Special
mightycpa Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 I was dating this girl. We had almost just hit 1 month. Anger got me and I broke up with her out of jealousy, about messages that she wouldn't show me. I didn't communicate with her at all after that, neither did she. Probably a month or more after, she had gotten a new boyfriend. I really had feeling for her and wanted to make things clear. One day I decided to talk to her 1 on 1 and she explained that a lot of things happend in that small time span in which we were seperated for. She had been sick and there was this "caring guy" that was there for her whilst I wasn't. I told her that I really missed her and would like to get back together. She replied that she just used him to get my attention and doesn't like him (something like that) and also missed me. I had my arms around her while talking and she had no problem, but didn't want to go any further. The next day she was acting really strange, she said she missed me the day before but didn't act like that. She was also meeting with her boyfriend almost every day. She said she needs more time to rethink and I gave her a few days. She then told me she'll stay with him because I thought of this too late. I know it's my fault for breaking up with her then expecting to get together, but why would she tell me she missed me and doesn't like that guy then the next day be so different?What difference does WHY make? What you've seen now is that no matter what she tells you, you can't rely on it. That's what is important to understand. Plus, next time, there's no excuse for anger or jealousy when you've only been dating one month. Cool your jets.
Author Special Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) What difference does WHY make? What you've seen now is that no matter what she tells you, you can't rely on it. That's what is important to understand. Plus, next time, there's no excuse for anger or jealousy when you've only been dating one month. Cool your jets. I've noted that for next time, I didn't react properly to the situation But other than that this thing has been troubling me because she didn't do anything to prevent it as if she wanted us to break up. I know it's parts of what she did that got me to the decision, but I still feel as if it was all my fault. Edited August 24, 2015 by Special
aloneinaz Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 I've noted that for next time, I didn't react properly to the situation But other than that this thing has been troubling me because she didn't do anything to prevent it as if she wanted us to break up. I know it's parts of what she did that got me to the decision, but I still feel as if it was all my fault. My man, there's got to be plenty of other girls at your HS, right? Go have fun and STOP worrying about this girl you barely dated. 1
Author Special Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 My man, there's got to be plenty of other girls at your HS, right? Go have fun and STOP worrying about this girl you barely dated. I got to the conclusion that in that moment she had different emotions and said those stuff to me. Basically I understood that whatever girls say is led by their emotions and that you shouldn't take their word for whatever they say. Oh and yea, there's definitely a lot more girls to date out there.
StrangerThanFiction Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I got to the conclusion that in that moment she had different emotions and said those stuff to me. Basically I understood that whatever girls say is led by their emotions and that you shouldn't take their word for whatever they say. Oh and yea, there's definitely a lot more girls to date out there. This coming from someone who let their emotions get the best of them after being in a relationship for ONE MONTH? As a woman, I find this incredibly offensive. But maybe it's just my female emotions leading me and I actually don't mean that. Honestly dude, with an attitude like you apparently seem to have, I can't say I blame her for staying with the "caring guy". Especially with you trying to insert yourself in between her and her current boyfriend. Seems selfish. But you like you said, lots of other girls out there. Let her go. 1
Author Special Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) This coming from someone who let their emotions get the best of them after being in a relationship for ONE MONTH? As a woman, I find this incredibly offensive. But maybe it's just my female emotions leading me and I actually don't mean that. Honestly dude, with an attitude like you apparently seem to have, I can't say I blame her for staying with the "caring guy". Especially with you trying to insert yourself in between her and her current boyfriend. Seems selfish. But you like you said, lots of other girls out there. Let her go. Hey, as I said I came down to the conclusion, meaning I thought this out very well and it took me some time. It was my fault for not holding much value at the end. I've learned a lot from what happend. Also, you didn't get my point. I accidentally escalated to the point where both our goals combine and got the vibe going on thus unconsciously making her say those stuff. Then the next day she logically thought it out and the emotions were different. But I'm pretty happy with what I managed to do haha Edited August 26, 2015 by Special
mightycpa Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 I've noted that for next time, I didn't react properly to the situation But other than that this thing has been troubling me because she didn't do anything to prevent it as if she wanted us to break up. I know it's parts of what she did that got me to the decision, but I still feel as if it was all my fault.Well, in one way, it WAS all your fault. You totally overreacted, given how long you'd been seeing each other. But in another way, she just didn't like you all that much either, at least not yet. So, if you'd have been a good little puppy dog, she probably would have treated you badly anyway. I just don't think it was going to happen for you with this one. I could be wrong, but if she's hiding stuff from you on her phone, it might mean that her interest was not completely focused on you. 2
Author Special Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Well, in one way, it WAS all your fault. You totally overreacted, given how long you'd been seeing each other. But in another way, she just didn't like you all that much either, at least not yet. So, if you'd have been a good little puppy dog, she probably would have treated you badly anyway. I just don't think it was going to happen for you with this one. I could be wrong, but if she's hiding stuff from you on her phone, it might mean that her interest was not completely focused on you. I partially agree with what you said. She probably liked me a lot, but I know now that I've done some unattractive things that would've got me unattracted as well If I was her. It's my fault and I can't blame her for that. Well what's done is done and It shouldn't really matter to me anymore.
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