matanzas Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Hi everyone, I'm in real need of good advice. I've fallen for a woman that works as a bank teller. I always use the drivethrough and she always smiles at me. She might be like that with every customer but I've noticed she always rushes in to the window to take care of my transaction and say hi even when she is at a different window and someone else started my transaction. The other day I asked her name and I told her it was a beautiful name. Next time I stopped by she rushed to the window to send my deposit receipt and repeated my name in a way so I knew she knew it (Faure right?). I've also noticed that the rest of the women working with her act kind of strange with me when she's not there, it almost seems they're talking about me in some way. Seriously, it's just evident. The other day I stopped by, she was not there and the lady attending me ask me to wait for a minute and she came back with a another man who just showed up to look at me and then left. Not knowing what to do, I sent her flowers anonymously with a love note telling how much I like her smile. Next day I stopped by and the flowers were at her cubicule. This is what left me completely cluless. 3 days after I sent her the flowers I stopped by and asked her if she liked the flowers? She smiled and said yes, that they were very beautiful but then when to ask "it was you?" And her eyes were kind of confused. I don't know if she wasn't expecting it from me as I'm always very serious. I've been told many times in the past that I'm not easy to read or approach. I left as she's working and I might get her in trouble if I talk too much while she's working. Do you think I have a chance here or is it just my imagination? This is driving me crazy and I really like her. Should I give her my number and see what happens? The only place I see her is at her workplace which makes it really difficult to make a move. Please advise. Thanks,
travelbug1996 Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 I don't understand why wouldn't you ask her for her number before you sent her flowers? I think you should ask for her number. Many women find it a turnoff when a man just gives out their number and wait for a woman to call them. If she gives you her number that way you can take the lead and see if she reciprocates. The flowers would have creeped me out.
yxalitis Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Most of your post is sketchy supposition and wishful thinking... It's obvious that you like her, I have no idea what she things about you, rushing to the counter might just be her job, right? However, by all means give her your number...or ask for hers... Don't expect a call though. 1
joseb Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Yeah - no definite sign of anything, but enough for you to ask for her number. Dunno why you would get so invested, flowers etc when no real idea if there is anything at all there or now... Just ask for her number.
Author matanzas Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 I agree that all it's probable just wishfull thinking, afterall she has no clue who I am whatsoever. What intrigues me most is that lots of time she rushes to the window just to say hi. Sometimes she's not even aware that I am at the drivethrough cause she's sitting facing to the opposite direction and it seems like the lady attending me says something, she looks back and then comes to the window and says hi. Weird isn't it? The flowers was probably a mistake, it's just a thing of my country where men use to send flowers to women to seduce them, but she's not my nationality so she probably took her differently and that's why she acted confused.
Jules Dash Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 These sort of situations can be challenging. First, you are a customer at the place that she works. What if she goes out on a date with you and decide she is not really attracted to you? Now she has to deal with you driving up to the window at her bank all of the time. Also, all she has to go off of is your looks. You are just a guy who drives up and deposit and withdraw money. Unless you are throwing a lot of charm in there, there really isn't much to entice her on these brief encounters. Furthermore, it seems like she thought the flowers maybe from someone else. This is the one time I would recommend that you don't just plow through and ask for the number. See how she reacts to for a moment. You are working up from a hole in the first place.
joseb Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Actually, I'm curious as to why you need to use a bank teller so often?! I think I've needed to go into a bank to use a teller twice in about 3 years.
Jules Dash Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Actually, I'm curious as to why you need to use a bank teller so often?! I think I've needed to go into a bank to use a teller twice in about 3 years. I was wondering the same. Maybe he likes to see her face before going to work.
Author matanzas Posted August 24, 2015 Author Posted August 24, 2015 I just owned a business and make deposits 3 or 4 times per week. That's all.
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 Stop being passive. Anonymous flowers? Sorry that is creepy, not romantic. Next trip to the bank, try going inside. Then ask if she'd like to get a drink sometime. When she says sure, ask her for her # & the best time to call. Call that afternoon to set something up for a few days later. 1
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