max3732 Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 I met this girl online and she gave me her number right away and asked for mine. After giving her my number I figured we'd text to figure out where to meet and see if there's any chemistry. There was only 1 time I could do it last week and she was busy so I texted her we'd try for next week. The problem is she's been texting me constantly. It's been over 2 years since my last relationship so I was extremely excited at 1st to have a girl so interested, but now she's really getting on my nerves and I haven't even met in person yet. If we were dating and I really liked her it would be one thing, but I don't know what to make of this. She'll send me texts like “what are you up to now?”, “how did you sleep?” “What are you having for dinner?” She also just told me she went to this place that was great and if she were a guy she'd take a nice girl there. Is this a sign she just really likes me or should I be afraid to meet her in person. I generally prefer a casual lunch for a 1st date to a romantic candle lit restaurant before I know if I have any interest. I’ve never encountered anything like this
menyou Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 How do you respond to her texts? Elaborately? One worded? Immediately? A few hours later? Do you speak on the phone?
Empyrea Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 Take some time and read some of the threads in this forum. It is the age of texting. It's the new form of dating between socially awkward young people for whom phone calls are too much pressure. People have whole relationships via texting even if they've never met before. So it's nothing too strange and you shouldn't write her off based just on that - it's just how it's done. But if you're uncomfortable with that, try to set up a date as quickly as possible and only text her back monosyllabic answers, so she knows you're not much of a texter.
smackie9 Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 I met this girl online and she gave me her number right away and asked for mine. After giving her my number I figured we'd text to figure out where to meet and see if there's any chemistry. There was only 1 time I could do it last week and she was busy so I texted her we'd try for next week. The problem is she's been texting me constantly. It's been over 2 years since my last relationship so I was extremely excited at 1st to have a girl so interested, but now she's really getting on my nerves and I haven't even met in person yet. If we were dating and I really liked her it would be one thing, but I don't know what to make of this. She'll send me texts like “what are you up to now?”, “how did you sleep?” “What are you having for dinner?” She also just told me she went to this place that was great and if she were a guy she'd take a nice girl there. Is this a sign she just really likes me or should I be afraid to meet her in person. I generally prefer a casual lunch for a 1st date to a romantic candle lit restaurant before I know if I have any interest. I’ve never encountered anything like this You can never really know if there is chemistry with someone over text. If you find this girl attractive enough to ask out, then you simply ask her out. That's what going out on dates is for....to get to know them and see if there is any potential.
Ami1uwant Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 Have you talked of setting up a date? How do you respond to her texts?
Author max3732 Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 Have you talked of setting up a date? How do you respond to her texts? Yes, I've talked about setting up a date next week. Usually I'll respond to her question with just a few words and sometimes I'll ask her the same question
cessna Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 That would drive me up the wall. I hate texting for the sake of texting. Why would anyone care about what you had for dinner?! I'd tread carefully, that comment about if she were a bloke she'd take a girl to this restaurant screams to me that she's looking for a free dinner. If you do ask her out make sure it's for a few drinks and nothing more. Do not buy any girl dinner on the first date. Ever.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 Yes, I've talked about setting up a date next week. Usually I'll respond to her question with just a few words and sometimes I'll ask her the same question Do you respond right away? If so, wait a bit before responding. How often is she texting you? For me, that would also be too much texting. Even in an established relationship, I don't text this way. See how she is when you meet. In the meantime, you can slow the pace down by delaying the response time or not volleying back the same questions.
travelbug1996 Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 she sounds clingy. she doesn't even know you. I would imagine she takes all the fun out of it for you. irls are so thirsty these days. They think its ok to do but it turns most guys off especially guys who would prefer to pursue the girl THEY LIKE.
Author max3732 Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 She's saying she can only meet for dinner because she works till late and can't believe I'm so busy I can't take her out to dinner. Am I better off telling her I feel more comfortable with lunch for a 1st date or that I'm busy at night/not sure of my schedule.
Gaeta Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 About the text: Just tell her you're too busy at work to check your text and reply to her on off work hours. Then when you're off work hours say to her what ever you have to say then end it with: Got go to talk tomorrow. As simple as that. As for dinner? NO. Meet for coffee, nothing else. 1
katiegrl Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 (edited) She's saying she can only meet for dinner because she works till late and can't believe I'm so busy I can't take her out to dinner. Am I better off telling her I feel more comfortable with lunch for a 1st date or that I'm busy at night/not sure of my schedule. She sounds demanding. I mean, you haven't even met yet ...and she is dictating the terms of how you are to spend your FIRST MEET? By attempting to guilt you into buying her dinner? I think you should abort the whole thing and wish her well. You're turned off by her anyway. Or tell her no you are not too busy for dinner, but you prefer *first meets* to be casual and low key, like coffee or ice cream. To gauge chemistry and go from there. My guess is she is more interested in the free dinner. Just a guess though, I know a few chicks who are like this. Edited August 23, 2015 by katiegrl 1
joseb Posted August 24, 2015 Posted August 24, 2015 She's saying she can only meet for dinner because she works till late and can't believe I'm so busy I can't take her out to dinner. Am I better off telling her I feel more comfortable with lunch for a 1st date or that I'm busy at night/not sure of my schedule. Up to this point, I was thinking she's ok, just a bit of an overtexter. But this comment, coupled with her mentioning the restaurant before....sounds ifft... Offer to meet her for either a late coffee or a drink. Be friendly but firm - you like to meet someone before you start committing to dinner, etc. Nothing wrong with that. If she tries to guilt you into taking her for dinner, you know she is just looking for a meal ticket.
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