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Hello all,

My Gf and I broke up about a month ago because she felt I was suffocating her, too controlive, and she felt as if we argued more than anything. We are both early 20s and although she had many men, I was the first one she introduced to her family. Also went against her religion to date me.

 

We broke up a month ago, and a week after we met up, I gave her her stuff and we gained closure, and we started to make up, but then just parted ways. I then initiated NC for about two weeks. I texted her about this restaurant that I passed up that we use to eat at all the time. And ended the text with hope you’re well. She contacted me about 5 minutes later with don’t think we will be doing that anymore and I am doing well. Hope you’re well too. I responded with, If you change your mind you know my number.

Then she responded with, I deleted your numbers, and I don’t see us having a future together, don’t make this harder than it is.

 

I wanted to play it cool so I said. I get it, but understand this wasn’t a marriage proposal, just lunch. I understand if you delete my number, but I am glad you knew who it was right off the bat. Offer still stands and have a great night.

 

After that she didn’t reaspond, but I know she was with friends that night, and maybe felt strong, but do you think I should wait for a text and do NC again.

 

I was thinking about maybe doing the whole boom box outside her window trick, but I need help here. Please advise. This was my to he wife.

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One month is nothing!! give it a rest! try 6 months.

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You need to take her word for it and realize she doesn't want to be with you anymore, not now and not for the foreseeable future. It's over, this isn't some sort of game - she simply doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. She has lost feelings for you to the point of not wanting to continue any sort of romantic involvement.

 

From what i've learned from my breakups, it's all a power dynamic. Right now she is, for lack of a better word, repulsed by you and does not want to hear from you. She knows your contact is attempts at getting back with her and it's a huge turnoff. This has nothing to do with you and means nothing about you as a person, it is just her perception of you right now because she's already come to the decision that she no longer wants you and anything you do now besides cold, permanent NC just screams desperation and weakness. For me, this knowledge is enough for me to never want to contact an ex ever again. Knowing that they see me in this way is enough for me to in turn be done with them. It's quite weird.

 

Do not send another text to her ever. You will most likely hear something from her in the future but it will most probably mean nothing and you shouldn't hold onto that or wait for it. It will be because she's felt the power shift and is simply checking in. This is over. It's time for NC and concentrating on yourself.

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What Hunk says ^ ^ it's done my friend, over. Listen and read what she is telling you, it's very clear! If you continue to pursue her it will only embarrass you..and her.

 

Acceptance is your friend. Time to move on I'm afraid.

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She made it pretty clear. There is really nothing to try and decipher. There is nothing to hold onto here. I see no hope. Nothing at all for you to do other than drive her further away and really piss her off.

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