h0000 Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 There are two guys I recently met from work place (but don't work together). Guy 1 would message me every once in a while (once in a few weeks) and asked me out for drinks with his friends. I turned him down but he tried a few more times. Guy 2 introduced himself to me when I shared the lift with him and we started chatting. I mentioned I'm new to camping and he said he's quite an expert and grabbed my number and said "just message me if you want to go sometime" He would also message me his camping photos. Now I am curious, do you guys think any of them might be making a move at all or they are just being friendly?
madjac74 Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 Probably both. They obviously have some sort of interest in you.
Author h0000 Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 Probably both. They obviously have some sort of interest in you. what if I tell you they both have a gf, will that change your mind?
Stilnaught Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 what if I tell you they both have a gf, will that change your mind? Some people would say: they're men, if they show interest, they are interested in you. Others would say: they aren't doing anything out of order, or plainly asking you out. Humans are too complex to judge on such little indications. I would advise you not to be naïve, nor to be paranoid. Or even better: if you know them for a while, talk about it. If they're just good and friendly guys, it won't scare them off and you'll get rid of the tension.
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 It seems like they were both making a move but drinks & a discussion about camping could still simply be friendly. Perhaps they were flirty. How do you know they have GF? Taking one step / making a single overture is not necessarily cheating. More info is needed to definitively determine if they were making a move.
Author h0000 Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 It seems like they were both making a move but drinks & a discussion about camping could still simply be friendly. Perhaps they were flirty. How do you know they have GF? Taking one step / making a single overture is not necessarily cheating. More info is needed to definitively determine if they were making a move. I thought they were single till some women tagged them in photos and sentimental posts on Facebook. The women are definitely the gf. I'm more just curious reagrding their intentions. I don't think I will really go out drinking or camping with them knowing they have a gf . So there probably won't be more info lol
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 I thought they were single till some women tagged them in photos and sentimental posts on Facebook. The women are definitely the gf. I'm more just curious reagrding their intentions. I don't think I will really go out drinking or camping with them knowing they have a gf . So there probably won't be more info lol You still don't know they have GFs. Lots of people have the ability to tag people in photos on FB. That alone tells you nothing. I would ask each man if he is in a relationship & then possibly ask who these specific women are. You are making assumptions & those assumptions may be preventing you from forming meaningful connections. You seem to be looking for reasons to avoid having to deal with them.
Author h0000 Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 You still don't know they have GFs. Lots of people have the ability to tag people in photos on FB. That alone tells you nothing. I would ask each man if he is in a relationship & then possibly ask who these specific women are. You are making assumptions & those assumptions may be preventing you from forming meaningful connections. You seem to be looking for reasons to avoid having to deal with them. Nah I'm not avoiding them. But they really do have a gf. First guy I asked him about it but he doesnt want to talk because it's "too complicated". Second one had a woman posting very obvious things and kissing photos that show they are in a relationship. I initially thought they were definitely interested but now I guess my radar may just be completely off Cant trust my guts in reading guys anymore
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