Jj66 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 (edited) I had my second date with her today (4th meeting) We met for a coffee and then did a strenuous hike. With several pauses for kissing/making out. Afterward we had lunch. She insisted in paying. She wanted to know what I had planned for the rest of the weekend. I told her I had thought about taking her dancing tonight but she suggested the morning hike. She said she would like to go dancing with me tonight but she had to go back home because she was pet-sitting and would not be able to stay out late because of the pet-sitting. We agreed to contact each other to make plans for tonight. She just texted me and said the woman's son was home and she didn't need to pet sit tonight and she was "off the hook until tomorrow afternoon" I asked if she had a curfew? She said nope. Does telling me she's off the hook until tomorrow afternoon with no curfew mean she's DTF? Her body language tells me she wants me bad but our verbal interaction tells me she's maybe a bit naive without much dating experience since the end of her 20 year marriage and perhaps looking for something long-term. I get the impression that she's maybe too nice for a guy like me. I know almost for certain I could bed her tonight but I'm not sure it's a good idea. I don't want to hurt anyone. I have other irons in the fire already, if you know what I mean, so I don't want to do it unless she is totally DTF. Edited August 22, 2015 by Jj66
mrldii Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 I don't know if she's "DTF", but it appears she's definitely down to spending evening (and perhaps) night time(s) with you, which could lead to "DTF" time. But, it could not lead to "DTF" time, and she could just be interested in getting to know you better, to decide if - sometime in the future - she might be "DTF". If you already know she's not relationship-worthy (but ONS-worthy), it's probably best that you go dancing with someone else, tonght... ...or, dance by yourself, tonight. Unless you don't mind being that guy who pumps-and-dumps. Good luck with your decision, OP...
Author Jj66 Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 (edited) I wouldn't say she's not relationship material. She definitely is. I like her a lot. I'm just not sure if I am relationship material at this point. I don't do ONS anymore but I don't know if I can ever be monogamous again. When she starts asking for exclusivity I probably won't be able to give her that. ---- I went dancing with her. When she arrived at my place we ended up making out on my couch and almost didn't go dancing but I stopped the festivities and told her we were going out to have some fun. When we got back to my place. I kissed her in the car for a minute. She asked: Well, are you going to walk me to my car or invite me in? Which I read as: Are you going to **** me tonight or wait until another time? Maybe a little less naive than I thought. Lol. I invited her in and we had sex of course. It was good sex for both of us. Afterward, she said she probably ought to go back to her place. Why's that? It just seems more appropriate. Silly, you can stay here. I have a pack of tooth brushes... Are you inviting me to spend the night? Yes, I would like that. The morning sex was also good. Maybe considering my (lack of) intentions I should have let her go back home. I dunno. Inviting her to stay the night may have sent the wrong message. Edited August 23, 2015 by Jj66
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