newguy1 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 So we know each other for like 7 to 8 months and we sext a lot these days but the thing is she never gets horny and no my sexting game isn't that bad either as she even admitted that she gets horny like once in a month or so but thats also random. Is there some low sex drive problem with my girlfriend or is this normal? Would be really interested in knowing your opinion on this(specially ladies)
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I'm a woman. It just doesn't do it for some people. If it isn't turning her on, stop doing it or she will just become irritated and it will feel like an obligation, which will hurt and frustrate you. Part of a relationship is discovering what does and does not turn your partner on. Sexting isn't it for her. She could have a low sex drive in general, or there may be a sexual incompatibility issue. Have you asked her what excites her? How old are you both, and do you know if she's had much experience? It may be that even she doesn't know what really turns her on if she hasn't had much opportunity to explore that yet.
RecentChange Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I am just going to come out and say I am a super horny female with a high sex drive - and sexting really does nothing for me. I would some when my boyfriend was traveling for work etc, but that was totally for his benefit - doesn't help me much!
katiegrl Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 So we know each other for like 7 to 8 months and we sext a lot these days but the thing is she never gets horny and no my sexting game isn't that bad either as she even admitted that she gets horny like once in a month or so but thats also random. Is there some low sex drive problem with my girlfriend or is this normal? Would be really interested in knowing your opinion on this(specially ladies) Have you met in person? Had sex in person? If so, then how is the sex in person? If you have a decent sex life .... in person .... then just forget sexting and focus on the real sex with her, live, in person. If this is a cyber relationship, then I don't know how to advise as I cannot relate. Other than to say she is probably not *feeling* it for ya, and may view you more as a friend, a texting buddy.
vincentvin Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I'm a woman. It just doesn't do it for some people. If it isn't turning her on, stop doing it or she will just become irritated and it will feel like an obligation, which will hurt and frustrate you. Part of a relationship is discovering what does and does not turn your partner on. Sexting isn't it for her. She could have a low sex drive in general, or there may be a sexual incompatibility issue. Have you asked her what excites her? How old are you both, and do you know if she's had much experience? It may be that even she doesn't know what really turns her on if she hasn't had much opportunity to explore that yet. We both are around 23 and 24 years old. She has no experience with sexting for sure. About sex, no she hasnt had sex apart from normal foreplay with her ex which was years ago. She does say she gets horny in few weeks which is natural but she never does when i text or try some dirty talk. Have you met in person? Had sex in person? If so, then how is the sex in person? If you have a decent sex life .... in person .... then just forget sexting and focus on the real sex with her, live, in person. If this is a cyber relationship, then I don't know how to advise as I cannot relate. Other than to say she is probably not *feeling* it for ya, and may view you more as a friend, a texting buddy. well we are in LDR. Havent met yet but we know ourselves very much(Will be meeting up very very soon). Actually I did ask her if she gets horny when seeing a hot male model but she doesnt get that too. I am not sure if its her low sex drive or its because I havent done with her in real yet. Maybe she will be more horny post real sex? Thanks for the answers
losangelena Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I mean the following with no disrespect, but: Hahaha, sexting. Is this like, a real "thing?" The last BF I had who tried to do it with me got laughed at. Not to trivialize your situation, OP, but I wouldn't worry if she doesn't get horny from it. She could very well do it because she knows you like it, not because she does. If she was having a problem getting aroused during actual sex, that's something to be concerned about.
nouedis Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Honestly, her sex drive could not all be there. She could be more aroused by actions rather than by words, you know? If it's not that, then it's probably the fact that it could be you, or maybe you or y'all do it at an odd time (which how would that ever come to be?).
losangelena Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Actually, sorry for seeing rude in my last post—I can see that it is an actual concern for you, so I apologize if I sounded like a jerk. Given your circumstances, I see this is all you have. However, women aren't like men in that usually they're not as visually stimulated, so not feeling anything if she looks like a male model is not strange. Sexting, either. A lot of times women need a strong emotional component or an "in person" component, like if you were holding her/kissing her/talking to her. "Sexting" is so ... impersonal. At least try phone sex or something, somewhere she can hear your voice. I personally deplore sexting and do not engage in it. To me there is nothing sexy about it.
katiegrl Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 We both are around 23 and 24 years old. She has no experience with sexting for sure. About sex, no she hasnt had sex apart from normal foreplay with her ex which was years ago. She does say she gets horny in few weeks which is natural but she never does when i text or try some dirty talk. ***Well we are in LDR. Havent met yet** but we know ourselves very much(Will be meeting up very very soon). Actually I did ask her if she gets horny when seeing a hot male model but she doesnt get that too. I am not sure if its her low sex drive or its because I havent done with her in real yet. Maybe she will be more horny post real sex? Thanks for the answers Quote in asterisk -- Just like I suspected, a *cyber* relationship. Not sure why you just could not say that, since that's exactly what this is. Until such time you meet IN PERSON...a texting buddy. Anyway, I already gave you my two cents, sounds like she views you more as a close friend. That could change once you meet IN PERSON ....hard to say. It could go the other way too....and you will end up friends. Good luck!! 1
katiegrl Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Does she get horny in real life? They have not met in real life.....
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 So as I understand it, she is a virgin. She's not had much experience with sexting or dirty talk. You've never met her. Given all of the above, I'm not sure why you're so confused about her lack of desire. She doesn't really know you and she has little sexual experience. Of course she isn't feeling it just yet. A lot of women wouldn't be, in these circumstances. See how it goes when you meet. Don't expect to jump into bed with her. And maybe cut back a bit with the dirty talk for now. If she's not responding to it, you could be shooting yourself in the foot before you even meet. 2
katiegrl Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 So we know each other for like 7 to 8 months and we sext a lot these days but the thing is she never gets horny and no my sexting game isn't that bad either as ***she even admitted that she gets horny like once in a month or so but thats also random.**** Is there some low sex drive problem with my girlfriend or is this normal? Would be really interested in knowing your opinion on this(specially ladies) Quote in asterisk, I find that odd ....I mean what happens *once a month* that causes her to get horny ....once a month? Have you asked her?
fitnessfan365 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Personally, I'd rather be having actual sex but that's just me. LOL My advice? Start using the texting as an opportunity to plan dates where you spend more actual time together.
Gaeta Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Quote in asterisk, I find that odd ....I mean what happens *once a month* that causes her to get horny ....once a month? Have you asked her? Well dear, ovulation. 2
katiegrl Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Well dear, ovulation. Good answer! Duh!!!!:bunny: 2
RoseVille Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 This is all premature given that you haven't even met yet. 1
katiegrl Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Well dear, ovulation. Haha ... interesting I did not think of this. What I was thinking was that maybe she watched porn once a month or something... THAT's where my mind went.....
Dolfin80 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Actually, sorry for seeing rude in my last post—I I personally deplore sexting and do not engage in it. To me there is nothing sexy about it. To me it's quite disgusting, esp from someone you haven't even met. Why wouldn't you have sex in person like normal people.
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