cgr68311 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Okay so my problem is not so much NC. Hear me out. There this latin club where girls are so easily picked up. Problem is, recently two exgfs that I met there decided to hang out there again. They both know that's my spot. Last year and the year before (respectively) each one of them tried to show up after I did my NC and when they showed up last year I dissuade them from hanging out by either blatantly ignoring them or messing with them. That time that worked and I had the club all again to myself. But now they are back, each with its own co*ckblocker guyfriend. At least one approached me to tell me that I can dance with her because they are not dating and also told me not to be a stranger. I kept ignoring her. The other ignores me but keeps staring me at me when I am facing in another direction. I don't think they are there with a hidden agenda. I have my ego but I know the world doesnt revolve around me either. I still do my game and each night I have at least a couple of girls caressing me in front of them but I must admit that I lose some of my libido seeing these ex's which in turn the loss of libido makes me lose interest in new girls. Help.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Why do you feel you should have this place all to yourself? They are free to go there if they want. You can't really do anything about it, other than continuing to ignore them. Pretend they aren't there. You can kindly turn down any invitation to dance with them if they ask. Don't "mess with them" as that's not the mature approach and apparently it didn't work as they're both still going there.
losangelena Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Or you could go somewhere else? I hate to say it, but that's what happens when you pick up multiple girls from the same location. They're as free to go there as you are. What I'm curious about is what is it about seeing them that makes you lose your libido. What happened with these girls? You call them "exgfs," but how long did you date them? How involved were you?
nouedis Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Dude, chill out. Let them linger on or be aberrant about it.
Author cgr68311 Posted August 22, 2015 Author Posted August 22, 2015 Or you could go somewhere else? I hate to say it, but that's what happens when you pick up multiple girls from the same location. They're as free to go there as you are. What I'm curious about is what is it about seeing them that makes you lose your libido. What happened with these girls? You call them "exgfs," but how long did you date them? How involved were you? One I dated for over a year, very toxic. The other about 6 mos. I catch them staring at the girl I'm grinding with...that turns me off lol
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 One I dated for over a year, very toxic. The other about 6 mos. I catch them staring at the girl I'm grinding with...that turns me off lol You'd have to be looking at them too to notice this.
Author cgr68311 Posted August 22, 2015 Author Posted August 22, 2015 You'd have to be looking at them too to notice this. It's unavoidable it's not a very large dance floor, elbow to elbow at times, or should I say hip to hip.
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