contel3 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 It´s been 5 months since my break up. The last three weeks I was doing so well I thought I had finally forgotten about him. I had no desire to contact him, never thought about him and was very happy. A few days ago he contacted me and it totally set me back. He contated me to ask if "everything is good" between us. That he doesn´t want ´me to be angry at him and hopes we can be friends. Again, I feel so sad. It hurts me that he thinks we can be friends. That it doesn´t hurt him to talk to me like it hurts me. That he lined up someone else while we were still together and thinks "all is good between us". I feel so disrespected, disposable and....that everything was a lie. I did so many things for him, gave up on so much, just to be discarded in one of the most cruel manners. I don´t love him anymore but it still hurts so much. I feel really pathetic about having such a huge setback.... I have nobody to talk to anymore because everyone thinks I´m over him. I know I should have blocked him long ago but now I´m afraid to do so because I don´t want to look weak and let him know I´m still hurt. If I block him he will know for sure. When I see him and his new gf at work I just politely nod and walk on. I try to keep my dignity the best I can but it hurts so damn much.
Jaggerz Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 It´s been 5 months since my break up. The last three weeks I was doing so well I thought I had finally forgotten about him. I had no desire to contact him, never thought about him and was very happy. A few days ago he contacted me and it totally set me back. He contated me to ask if "everything is good" between us. That he doesn´t want ´me to be angry at him and hopes we can be friends. Again, I feel so sad. It hurts me that he thinks we can be friends. That it doesn´t hurt him to talk to me like it hurts me. That he lined up someone else while we were still together and thinks "all is good between us". I feel so disrespected, disposable and....that everything was a lie. I did so many things for him, gave up on so much, just to be discarded in one of the most cruel manners. I don´t love him anymore but it still hurts so much. I feel really pathetic about having such a huge setback.... I have nobody to talk to anymore because everyone thinks I´m over him. I know I should have blocked him long ago but now I´m afraid to do so because I don´t want to look weak and let him know I´m still hurt. If I block him he will know for sure. When I see him and his new gf at work I just politely nod and walk on. I try to keep my dignity the best I can but it hurts so damn much. I don't know if you can use my advice as my breakup is just a week old and I am very much in deep **** myself. What was helpful for me in the past days is just not to contact at all and keep busy all the time. If you have no one, I am sure even old friends like it if you contact them and hang out. Do not reply. Do not show him you're hurt. It will boost his ego. Go have fun, set a goal. You have already felt better, something I only want for myself right now, you just need to forget, remember that you are strong on your own.
YellowPetal Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I'm really sorry for your pain Something similar happened to me about three months ago. My ex also had someone lined up and cheated on me while we were still together. I would not reply to any of his messages. He treated you in the most despicable way possible, and he doesn't deserve your attention. He's not the person you thought he was. He betrayed your trust and you don't owe him anything. You were disrespected and humiliated, and never forget that. It doesn't really matter what he or anyone else thinks. Concentrate on healing and feeling better. Remember that you're the most important person in your life.
Poppyolive Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I'm sorry your hurting. To be honest, who cares what he thinks? He has hurt you and is still hurting you. Please block him, for you! For your self worth, for your healing. You can still be civil in passing. No need to have any more set backs. Take back the power of your feelings & your heart, take it away from him For him wanting to be friends, is a joke. What be did was shjitty. Ain't No friend of mine. Be strong & ride those waves!!!!
Felicite Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Tottaly agree with Poppyolive Ignore him completely, and if you can manage, block him as well. Who cares if it seems like you are angry, you should be. Even the fact that he thinks ‘’everything can be ok and you can be friends’’ is a joke. I understand why you are feeling so angry. It’s funny when you start doing a bit better, something happens and it pushes you back… Stay strong and ignore him! I hope it gets better!
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