kenmore Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I have known for awhile I may have to leave the area. I'm so happy about this job and can't wait!! But tonight I got a message from my GF. "crap I have such mixed feelings about u leaving." Not sure why her feelings should be "mixed" lol! but know the bad part is me actually leaving (at least I hope that's the bad part!) I feel she wouldn't have texted that if she didn't give a crap and feel she would want me to stay. Actually, I'm still hoping for that sex I asked for! Since I said the blatant thing, we have gone out and she pushed her boob against my arm...I took up the cue but we were in public so no dice still. Why do all the possible relationships grow more powerful when they have to end? Don't answer that, I already know. People want what they can't have. Now that I'm leaving, I have attention up my *ss! And I like it! No offense to the ladies here, but after I move I'm thinking of lying my *ss off and telling every woman I meet that I may have to leave soon. Hey it will be true! I will be "leaving" every other day! Still I hurt for my GF. I feel she is the best woman I have known for a long time! So warm, so caring, so incredibly understanding...and she's hot too! She's hurt and that hurts me. So now I'm sad. I was ready to just say goodbye. We knew we would separate. she knew it. Now there are.......feelings! F*ck! Not a question I guess, just a conveyance. Ken
La.Primavera Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 This is why relationships with an expiry date are a bad idea. It doesn't make it any easier to say goodbye when you are sexually frustrated. Sorry, that wasn't very helpful.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I'm a bit confused. Have you not had sex with your girlfriend yet? I don't understand the reference "that sex" you asked for.
guest569 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 She cant be that great if you're already planning your next lot of women ?? 2
elaine567 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I'm a bit confused. Have you not had sex with your girlfriend yet? I don't understand the reference "that sex" you asked for. See #1 -Asked my gf to F*k
La.Primavera Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I feel she wouldn't have texted that if she didn't give a crap and feel she would want me to stay. Actually, I'm still hoping for that sex I asked for! Has it occurred to you that the reason she doesn't want to sleep with you is because she doesn't want to get attached and hurt? No offense to the ladies here, but after I move I'm thinking of lying my *ss off and telling every woman I meet that I may have to leave soon. Hey it will be true! I will be "leaving" every other day! That isn't going to make them jump into bed with you. 2
jen1447 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 You're in a unique position to do an experiment K-Mo ....tell her you found out you're not leaving after all and watch her go cold on you. Ken leaving - "he's so awesome!" Ken staying - "he's so ....yawn." 1
Popsicle Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 A little too late. I think you are right to want to date women in your new locale who are in CLOSE proximity. Do not fall into a LDR trap. 1
Author kenmore Posted August 22, 2015 Author Posted August 22, 2015 For those who did not understand, our friendship began in a benign way. We didn't just meet and fall for each other, it began as a professional relationship early this year. Eventually we talked about personal things and our feelings grew. Talk turned sexual (not just by my own tongue...or fingertips since most was via text) but seemed like just good fun. We have gone out several times and it's getting more serious just in time to say goodbye. I "bounced" the idea of meaningless sex off her and it didn't work out great but it didn't cause us any problems either. I don't regret it, it was honest. We knew all along it couldn't be a long-term thing. Again, blanket honesty. We did allow ourselves to start having feelings for one another though, I think going to movies and dinner with someone will just lead to that. I'm sure sex would too. My problem is I suppressed it. I didn't allow myself to feel it. Hey, I'm a master at suppressing feelings, I just got a divorce! I loved my wife for years and had to learn to not feel it anymore. Reading that text from my "GF" and I put it in quotes because I feel she's the closest thing I have to one but don't know it was ever "official" (and I put that in quotes because I'm not sure what I mean) brought that feeling to the surface. Ok, I'm just whining here. F*ck it. It is what it is. I HATE LDR's, so I'll do my best not to have one, Popsicle. La.Primavera, everything has occurred to me. Including psychology. I'm not so sure that they wouldn't be more likely to jump into bed with me; then again, having money is what really matters. I hate to be so cynical but that's the lesson life has taught me and it has done so very well! 1
La.Primavera Posted August 23, 2015 Posted August 23, 2015 having money is what really matters. I hate to be so cynical but that's the lesson life has taught me and it has done so very well! I guess if you are looking for a fling then how much money you are willing to spend might make certain women jump into bed with you. However, I still stand by my position that saying you are leaving soon isn't more likely to get sex from a woman. It might have worked during the war, but not anymore. I can only speak for myself, I couldn't care a less how much money a man has, it is his character that I'm interested in so I don't think it is fair to group us all together that way. We all prioritize different things. Congratulations on the new job by the way. 2
Author kenmore Posted August 23, 2015 Author Posted August 23, 2015 I guess if you are looking for a fling then how much money you are willing to spend might make certain women jump into bed with you. However, I still stand by my position that saying you are leaving soon isn't more likely to get sex from a woman. It might have worked during the war, but not anymore. I can only speak for myself, I couldn't care a less how much money a man has, it is his character that I'm interested in so I don't think it is fair to group us all together that way. We all prioritize different things. Congratulations on the new job by the way. Thank you and of course you're right. My apologies. It's a bit of a bitter streak that has to get out of my system. I know it's not generally true. Take the sentence about lying in the future to women out of my original post (I don't lie, it's just not me) and maybe it will set better with you. I was feeling a bit ornery. I'm not actually going to do that. I was mainly noticing how things have changed between me and most people now that they know I'm leaving. It feels a bit disingenuous but I know how it is too. I'd feel differently knowing someone else was leaving, I may as well spill my feelings and tell them how much I know they mean to me, rather than the usual wall that we all put up. Same if someone was dying. I'd feel I should really open up to them and let them know what they mean to me; unlike what I normally do LOL! Well, you called me on what I said and you were right. How often do you see that here? I'm admitting I was wrong! Please make a note of it. :-) Also, since I don't know whether you may die or not (or me), I like you and feel you give good advice! And thank you for your kindness regarding my new job. I appreciate it very much! Ken 1
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