poor boy Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 So I am a British guy, mid 20s. This summer I have worked in an American summer camp. It was tough but fun. I met an American girl who worked there, a couple of years younger than me. We started to hang out abit, and spend time together, especially before the kids arrived. We were going for jogs together etc. I figured she liked me, so on an evening out I told her I liked her. She was surprised, and was apprehensive about the idea of us dating, because she said that camp romances are short lived, and she kind of had a guy that she had been meeting back home. But that she thought I was cute and maybe we will see. Then after that, I didn't have an opportunity to talk to her for a week because camp was busy. And then a week later on our next night out, she was spending time in my proximity and looking over at me a lot, but I didn't talk to her till the end of the night. When I did, she almost seemed annoyed, and straight away said that she thought things wouldn't work out between us romtically, so we can quit avoiding eachither now. So she seemed upset about me not talking to her I guess. So after this evening, I didn't really talk to her after that. We sort of didn't speak anymore, without being hostile. But now and again, especially on evenings out, she was in my proximity and looking over at me a lot. And she became slightly different when I was around if that makes sense. Camp came and went, and it was a long summer. Towards the end though, we started to talk to each other abit more here and there. Then at the end of camp, there was barely any kids left and much less staff and we were allowed to have drinks on camp after work. During this time, we started to talk a lot more as we were working together which was a first. I could tell that she liked me a lot to talk to and stuff. Then on one night when we were having a camp fire and a few drinks, she was acting very flirty with me. I had a cut and she came back to my bunk to clean it up, but then she kissed me, and then we were kissing and we had sex. During this time I ased her why she didn't tell me that she liked me the whole time. She said that she knew that I'd asked another girl out at the start of camp (which I did ) and that a few of the girls thought I was flirting with them, so she didn't want to fall for my lines and be East or whatever. So the next day, she was really happy to see me and said yes when I asked her to hang out later. This was the last night of camp. Then later on she came to the campfire and sat next to me. She talked to me for abit, but we didn't talk about the previous night as people were there. Then she said she was going to bed. I went to her to talk before she left and brought up the previous night. She said she was very drunk and doesn't normally sleep with people like that, and I could understand that she maybe felt embarrassed. I get that. She then seemed to revert back to the disinterested person again and said sorry but it won't work. I tried to talk and see if it was our distance apart but she left. The next day, she left. But before that, she was saying goodbye to me and sitting with me for a while. She said if we are both back at camp next year we could start a fresh and she would like to do more things with me like jogging again etc. And when I said we should keep in touch she gave a very happy yes in reply. I since found out that she told everybody on camp that we slept together, even though she wasn't like that with any other guys. So I thought that was maybe a good sign. Also, significantly, she is going to work on a cruise ship for six months in Australia, at the end of September. So basically we will be nowhere near each other. So I left camp the next day, and went on a two week travel of America. I am currently still in the early stages of that. I messaged her on fb yesterday afternoon and said here's my email address and number. I will have a week available next week where I'm not doing anything in America and it would be nice to meet up. She messaged back later and said she will definitely be able to fb and email me. But only asked where I was travelling. I said down the east coast, which is near where she lives. It would be nice to see her again. But she hasn't replied and I sent that 24 hours ago now. This morning, one of the other girls from camp sent a mesage on our camp worker page, which only had about 20 of us on it. And said she is gonna be in new york next week (which is when I'm there and she knows that), and the girl I like responded and said she will try and make it down there (and she knows I will have seen that massage). Basically, this is a very unique story, and I don't know what to do. Because I actually really really like this girl, and I'm aware that we live far apart, but I would still want to go out with her. But she hasn't replied to my last message. Am I out? Should I try again in a few days? And I also want to enjoy my time travelling and this has put me in a bad place with feeling upset etc.
d0nnivain Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Not everybody can handle an LDR. She may not want one. You may just be the hot British guy with the sexy accent she met at camp. You can't tell much from the timing of an unreturned text. Do you have the ability to go back to where she is before you go home? If so at least take her on a real date & talk about it.
cessna Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Is this really going to work though, honestly? Even if she says yes to going out with you how can it realistically work with such a great distance between you. You had fun but I'd keep it as just that if I were you.
Author poor boy Posted August 22, 2015 Author Posted August 22, 2015 Not everybody can handle an LDR. She may not want one. You may just be the hot British guy with the sexy accent she met at camp. You can't tell much from the timing of an unreturned text. Do you have the ability to go back to where she is before you go home? If so at least take her on a real date & talk about it. Yes I agree with what you have said. And I realise it would be very inconvenient to have a relationship with someone in another country. But I am very interested in this girl and suppose I am abit of a fool for love really lol. Always have been. She lives in connecticut, so not far from New York where I am at the minute. I honestly think, that perhaps one of the main reasons she hasn't replied to me, especially going from what she said about not wanting to be just a hook up, is that she might be thinking that I only want to meet up with her for another quickie or whatever. And that I'd be expecting sex again. But the truth is I'd be just so happy to simply see her and spend some time with her. I miss her already. But the oher thing is, that I don't want to keep sending messages on fb because I don't want to look desperate, or clingy. I would creep myself out lol. But if I don't put some effort in I may never see her again. I would totally be willing to travel to connecticut to take her out on a proper date. I could do something incredibly daring, which would only ever work in the romcoms, and just turn up to there and tell her I'm there and taking her out. But I guess that is ridiculous right.
Siquijor Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 She was surprised, and was apprehensive about the idea of us dating, because she said that camp romances are short lived, and she kind of had a guy that she had been meeting back home. There's your answer. All she wanted was a bit of fun. Forget her and move on. 1
CollegeKid101 Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 Move on man. There's no chance this would work out. Also I'm sure she was BSing you when she said she normally doesn't hook up.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 I wouldn't pursue it. If she hasn't replied to you after a couple days, assume she's not interested in meeting. Whatever you do, do not randomly show up in her state and offer to take her out. You don't have enough encouraging signals from her to do so. Remember that mentioned there's another guy she's been meeting back home. She could well be seeing him again now.
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