FaithInTheDark Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I had a few discussions with friends on this and I'm wondering people's thoughts. Is there a difference when a guy your dating says "love you" Instead of "I love you" Or can this is taken the same context ? Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Just personal experience: I have skipped the "I" when I'm not too convinced in the statement. In other occasions could be just semantics. I had a few discussions with friends on this and I'm wondering people's thoughts. Is there a difference when a guy your dating says "love you" Instead of "I love you" Or can this is taken the same context ? Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Just personal experience: I have skipped the "I" when I'm not too convinced in the statement. Agree 100% In other occasions could be just semantics. Disagree 100% I add 'I' if I love 'em and I don't if I am seriously not sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 This reminds me of the movie "Something's Gotta Give" with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton. ------------------ Harry: I love ya. Erica: I love you too! If that's what you said. I don't know if it ends in a "ya" if it's a true "I love you." Harry: You are a woman unlike any other... -------------------------- Too funny....but maybe it's different depending on who's saying it? Some men/women mean it as I love you, and some just mean it as a term of endearment. This probably doesn't help ya much, does it. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 If people are saying love you and thinking that it doesn't count because they didn't say the word I, they are being dishonest to their partner. The words " love you " mean the exact same thing. A distinction without a difference. Don't say it if you don't mean it, that's called playing games. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Too funny....but maybe it's different depending on who's saying it? Most likely this imo. I think some ppl (probably a lot) don't want every utterance of love to a a PRONOUNCEMENT so they informalize it to some degree ...."love you," "love ya," "luvin," etc., etc. I tell my peeps "luvin" a lot, which doesn't mean I don't love them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveRefreshed Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Apparently from others it could have some deeper meaning, but fwiw, I use them both. The "lova ya" is something I'd say on a quick dash out the door or hanging up the phone. I love you would be something I say during sex, romantic occasions, and post coital levity. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 'Love ya' is a quick 'ILY' for me so I mean it. 'love you' is: I feel obligated to say this and right now at midnight and I am exhausted and you woke me up with a call or text it is al I can muster without causing you to blow your top and I want to go back to sleep and have that time as time for just me please. Link to post Share on other sites
Oregon_Dude Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 My GF towards the end transitioned from "I love you" to "Love you". To me the difference was totally notable. She dumped me shortly thereafter. Do what you will with that info. PS. "Sweetie" etc. also went out the window. Link to post Share on other sites
cessna Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 Agree 100% Disagree 100% I add 'I' if I love 'em and I don't if I am seriously not sure. But why would you say 'love you' if you didn't mean it in the first place? If you don't mean it don't say it. It's just semantics if you ask me. Link to post Share on other sites
Empyrea Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I feel that in the English language "I love you" has lost a lot of its value, because it's used so frequently and sometimes only in a "take care" kind of sense. And in those cases it does sound more like "loveyaaa babe" or "loveyouuuu" - kind of quick and meaningless. In a lot of other countries and other languages it's not like that and "I love you" still holds a lot of value and isn't thrown around as casually. In fact, I only remember my LTR boyfriend telling me he loved me properly once? twice? But it was the real looking into my eyes, holding my hand, saying it really seriously kind of "I love you". And then, once you've said it once with meaning, you can continue using the loveyas and loveyous to end your notes with. It still holds true, but you probably don't mean it as sincerely every time you use it. TL;DR - if he's said "I love you" properly, seriously, with meaning before, then I wouldn't be too concerned about the consequent use of different derivations of it. But if he hasn't, then you're right, it does come across as a bit insincere and maybe he isn't too sure (yet). Link to post Share on other sites
Author FaithInTheDark Posted August 21, 2015 Author Share Posted August 21, 2015 I feel you don't say the word love to your partner unless you mean it. He said I love you before I left for work (it wasn't in a serious manner, but felt sweet and feel like that had to of come from somewhere)and last night saying good bye he said Love you. I do feel like that's a step of opening up and expressing deep feelings. I try not to over analyze everything but sometimes I just need constant reassurance and he has a hard time trusting and getting close as he's said to me in the past Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted August 21, 2015 Share Posted August 21, 2015 I think it comes across just like it sounds - half-hearted. Link to post Share on other sites
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