ChiTessa Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 (edited) I have been dating a man for 11 months and as so many here, all seemed to be great. He reached out several times a day with loving messages. We got together during any of our free time. We made future plans. We introduced each other to our families. It was a very affectionate relationship with many "I love you's." One day it all flipped. I only got 1 text from him, thought that was odd and we talked on the phone that night and he was tired after working all day so we quickly ended the conversation. It was an incredibly stressful work week and I think his job is compromised. He works on commission and hasn't made a dime in months and something was supposed to come through that week and he was very excited to tell me about it, but I don't think it came through. So I just gave him some space and let him know if he wanted to talk I was here. Finally we talked and he said with his job he doesn't know if he has time to put anything into our relationship. I told him I was busy too and it would be fine. I wanted to be there to support him, but definitely not add any pressure. We talked about the things we like to do together. He said he missed me the few days we were not communicating. Friends and family do put pressure on him/us to get married. And I told him I'm not ready for that and wondered if the pressure bothered him. But I assured him I wasn't looking for that right now. (as side note..with his job insecurity I KNOW he has to get his life together and it has to be a priority and I KNOW I would not be willing to take the next step until his life was on track) I told him I feel like I don't know if we are broken up now or not. He said he didn't know either. I'm still in his FB profile pic of the two of us together. we are going to meet up and this is how we left the conversation. But I want to give him space and time and I said I will be away for a couple days and we can meet up after. So we will do that soon. It's SO strange since we had a really strong relationship up until literally 2 days before he dropped this. I can't help think his dire job situation is the cause. I did text saying I was glad we talked and he did write back nice words too. I am in that phase of wanting it to work out. Do you think there is any hope? Edited August 21, 2015 by ChiTessa
La.Primavera Posted August 22, 2015 Posted August 22, 2015 There is still hope you can reconcile but on the off chance it doesn't happen you need to prepare yourself for being independent and single again. Focus on your own interests and goals you want to achieve. Spend time with friends and family, and do things that make you happy. Take care.
Author ChiTessa Posted August 22, 2015 Author Posted August 22, 2015 Thanks for the kind words. Yes, that is true. I'm in the phase of hope. I'm not going to lose my dignity though. I am leaving for 2 days on a camping trip. I have not reached out much or contacted him because either he wants to be with me or not and I have already spoke my piece and made my thoughts clear. He can decide and I will be ready to move on. I do get a lot of attention and think my hardest obstacle will be not rebounding with anyone. I feel like I have a few waiting in the wings for something like this to happen. I have to be happy single and figure out HOW to do that. I wish there was a support group for that!
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