rossi_girl Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 [font=arial][/font][color=indigo][/color] help me with this one, any advice is appreciated. i will give you the background really quickly. i dated this guy about a year and a half ago and we fit together really well. in the course of dating each other, we had a fight and in haste broke up. three weeks later he met someone other girl and moved her into his apartment. i never called him back. they have been living together and dating ever since. around may of last year this guy e-mails me out of the blue and apologizes for fighting with me, tells me about his girl and wants to be friends with me. my alarm bells went off because neither of us are the type of people to remain friends with our ex's. in spite of this, we gave it a try. it was maybe a month later that he tells me he still misses me. yearns for me, as he puts it. and with those words we spent a summer and fall e-mailing and sending hot im's to each other. last november, i told him i met my boyfriend and wanted to spend sometime with my new guy. he was hurt, he told me that he really had true feelings for me and he was hurt that i had a boyfriend. i spelled it out for him, so he could understand things: he has girlfriend living with him and unless he was breaking up with her, i was dating my boyfriend. all our e-mails may have spoke the truth of our feelings for each other, but that is all they would ever be. he told me he wanted me to be happy and wished me luck. i never heard from him again. last weekend he sent me an email. just saying hi and seeing how i was doing. well in talking about everything, he made a mention of how he would love to watch these races with me. (we are both huge motorcycle fans. that is how we met.) i told him sure anytime. still i knew he has his girl and i've got my guy, but maybe we can finally be friends. well he asks if we can watch the races this sunday. i said sure thing. my question is this: we are and were really good friends. in our relationship we could talk to each and shared things with each other and on top of that we had this incredible sexual bond between us. however he is coming to my house and we will be alone. i want to trust him and not throw accusations in his face, but i am a bit worried. neither of us have never been any good at keeping our hands off of each other. however in friendship you have to trust that you friend will do the right thing. he has had trouble with this girl since she moved in. you know the getting to know each other type of stuff. still in all our hot emails he never really took it any farther. and now out of the blue he wants to spend an entire hour with me alone. i just don't see how it is possible for us to do that. and if we do, will i be laying the foundation for a break up with my current boyfriend. i feel like he just wants to spend time with me, be around me and see if the same sparks ignite as deeply as before, this i can understand. we each have self control and the love that we feel for our respective others. but still a girl is worried. as i said before our past relationship was almost, almost perfect. help!!!! and if i don't take a chance with him, will i be the biggest fool in history for using this opportunity to be alone with him????? help me, please!!!
ConfusedInOC Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 First off, Rossi cheated in the first race of the year and even though I know no one can beat him, I still want Hayden to win a few races this year. As for the guy, unless you're both willing to throw away your current relationships, I think you are asking for trouble. The reason Exs are Exs is because it probably wasn't meant to be. What's the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result...
Jennifer'sSecret Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC What's the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result... I love that saying! Now, if we could only get you to refrain from contact with your ex, Confused!!
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