Vercetti Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 Or simply choose to admit dating offers nothing positive to your life and move on to anything else to occupy the time that does contribute in a positive way. So be a better person, learn things about yourself, learn about human nature. Or be love shy can't win for losing become bitter with resentment blame society for your failures and Jack off on a wall til die. Think would go for things outside and inside dating before cut my balls off. Misery doesn't need more friends.
ZA Dater Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 So be a better person, learn things about yourself, learn about human nature. Or be love shy can't win for losing become bitter with resentment blame society for your failures and Jack off on a wall til die. Think would go for things outside and inside dating before cut my balls off. Misery doesn't need more friends. All dating does is make me a worse person, makes me want what I cant have, makes me hate who I am and how seemingly unattractive I am. I don't need to become bitter I am there already and likewise cynical. Just regret the fact I always thought being a good person was enough, when it simply matters for nothing. When you cannot even get someone average looking who you get on well with to date you.
Vercetti Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 My thing is you have not lost anything by trying. It's logic if I go out tonight with no girl, I can have a good time and maybe get a girl. If don't get a girl, still went out, had fun, networked. There is nothing to lose.
ZA Dater Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 My thing is you have not lost anything by trying. It's logic if I go out tonight with no girl, I can have a good time and maybe get a girl. If don't get a girl, still went out, had fun, networked. There is nothing to lose. No, all you loose when you try is any self respect you may have when you get rejected, again, again, again and forever. Then you loose yet more self worth when you realise the only people who do like you are frankly nothing you would ever want. I get what you say, go out have fun and if you meet someone great. Clubs and bars don't interest me so its easier just to sit at home and work on various projects than go to places I don't like, look at females I cant have and just generally feel like a total looser.
Vercetti Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 Just a example, people are everywhere. I also get the thing of self respect, just don't be a crash test dummy. You don't have to forthright put out romantic desire. Just if talk is going well, if seem receptive...can see if want to go someplace else or set a date. No reason to be over the top walking up your a godless I love you my soul is yours, can we please have coffee. It's really a Und game. Had a friend, in bands, not bad looking, smart, independant. Never got dates cause of his thinking, black and white extreme. He wouldn't read social cues or would react totally wrong. It was like he feared success so much would sabatage, just to keep self respect and show the world he is supposed to be alone.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 Sure you can be happy single but you are ALWAYS going to miss what you don't have or want what you cant get or alternatively just become cynical and bitter. Perhaps like me you will end up a combination of all of those. Fact remains 31 is too old to be clueless, that inexperienced is a major handicap and I will refute any claims by anyone who says it isn't. The older you get the less desirable your 'choice" becomes, ideally I'd want to date 24-25yo, why because a 31-34 yo doesn't interest me because most of them want kids "now" and are looking to settle down, whereis a 24-25yo there is time to grow into the idea, that's why age is important and another reason inexperience becomes a major handicap. Its not normal by any stretch to have never been kissed by 31, again nobody can tell me it is. Bottom line, single life isn't a choice one makes its a choice that's seemingly made for one by a whole variety of circumstances which renders one perpetually unattractive to anyone of a reasonable standard. Exactly, feeling behind in the dating/mating game is going to be extremely depressing for anyone who is behind
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